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writes:Ever since I split from my cheating boyfriend I hate being on my own, I'm still friends with my partner from before the one that cheated on me and I know he would like us to get back together, we were together for 12 years when I left him for the cheating one, I so regretted leaving him but we were going through a bad patch and I thought the grass was greener on the other side but it wasn't unfortunately. We still do get on and he's been so loyal to me, should we give it another try? I don't know what happened in our relationship but we just took each other for granted and were stuck in a rut, has anybody else been in this position and got back with their ex after a year break and it's worked? I still do really care for him but am unsure if it's the right thing to do.... please anybody, any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (11 March 2008):
 "we were together for 12 years when I left him for the cheating one"
So can we assume that you started seeing the new man whilst still with the 12 year man!!
Dovetailing your relationships is not a good idea - you have just experienced one of the main reasons why. Having some space between relationships allows you the time to understand your emotions. Whilst you may want to go back to 12 year man - and he may want you back, he may have a trust issue if you left him for another man, hence my comment at the beginning. It might be OK on the restart - but then further down the road emerge as a problem. It's a risk to consider.
Another factor is the question of why your 12 year relationship broke up before. Whatever problem caused the break-up is probably unresolved if you broke up. So - you have to identify what caused the break up and can it be overcome?
Nobody can tell you what to do - we can just point a few things out.
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (11 March 2008):
I guess you should give it a try, but only if you really feel for him. I guess it will be a little bumpy at first but if what you feel for each other is for real, you'll do well. He seems to be a very nice person. Just try to figure otu what borought you down before so you don't repeat it.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 My husband and I seperated for two years. This was when we were dating each other. I was very unhappy we were both young and I needed some time away from him. Our good times out weighed our bad and we remained in each others lives throughout the seperation, so after he grew up a little and got himself on the track as far as his career, and figured out what he wanted we started dating again. We dated non-seriously for about 9 months, then we moved in together and got engaged and after our one year engagement we got married. I will not tell you that it was easy when we got back together because it wasn't but ultimately it worked out. Every situation is different so in my opinion I think you should think long in hard and decide what is best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): I went on a break with my partner it was nice to have the space but even better when we got back together. We realised how much we really did miss and need eachother. It was like we had first gotten together again. Hope it all goes as well for you.Good Luck!!xxx
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