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writes:QuestionThis was SUCH an embarrassing date, did he get scared away?DetailsI've been dating someone for 5 months, I'm head over heels for him. He always calls and texts, he has romanced me and we have gotten closer by the day. A couple weeks ago we went to this carnival. He smokes marijuana from time to time and eats edibles. Well on the way there, he gave me a small piece of an edibile brownie (the size of a quarter). I have never consumed marijuana before and he is aware of this. I assumed I would not be affected but I was as soon as I got on a few rides. It caused me to laugh a lot and feel VERY fatigued I felt drunk. I'm not even sure if I was speaking correctly or whether or not I made any sense at times. We were having a blast but when we got in line for our last ride, I got dizzy and fainted! When I woke up I felt extremely wierd like something was gonna happen as he was walking me out of the line. He called for help and another thing to take note of is I have always been unsure as to where our relationship was headed, he has previously addressed me as his friend. For the last 2 months we got very close and "acted" like a couple. However one of the park employees asked if he was my boyfriend, and he said yes, which somewhat surprised me. I was taken to the on site emergency room and after laying down for awhile and drinking water I was fine.I was SO embarrassed and I cried after it happened because I was so scared and freaked out. I even thought I wet myself but turned out I didn't. After I calmed down I admitted to him I get anxiety sometimes so I was afraid to just leave so quickly but it was not a big deal but just needed to rest for a few. I paced back and forth for a bit to make sure I could walk straight as opposed to before. He seemed like he was being very gracious and caring, he watched me the whole time but I'm not sure if it was out of concern, being freaked out or viewing me as a nuisance. On the way home, I fell asleep and he was holding my hand as he drove. He texted me the next day to make sure I was ok. This date was so embarrassing I refrained from contacting him for one day after that. He then reached out to me via text once but right after that, he began acting completely different. He stopped calling as much, he'd say he'd call back and wouldn't then would text me with an excuse the next day. And when he would call back he would be out with friends so it would be short. He texted me yesterday and I finally talked to him last night (because I had to call him) but it was just silent and awkward on the phone so I told him I had to go. I'm SO sad over this, do you suppose this incident scared him away? And he is 28, I'm 24.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 Curious. So, he offers you illegal substances and sends you to the emergency room because of side effects which, as a THC products user, he is - or should be- well aware of ... then YOU are the one who is embarassed, and he is the one who is sulking ?
Topsy turvy . Observing due proportions , it's a bit like saying :
" That chick ! I gave her the best crystal meths I could score around, and it wasn't cheap you know ? , and what she does ?, she goes and has a cerebral ictus on me. Sigh... that's women for you , if it's not one thing it's another".
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): I think he probably felt very scared by what happened to you, responsible and rather guilty. As already mentioned, be direct and honest with him. Tell him you dont blame him and explain how much you like him. Then the ball is in his court. Thats all you can do really.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 I think he thinks it scared YOU away.
As unrattling as the events at the carnivale were, this is far from the worst thing that could have happened. He seemed genuinely concerned about you and handled everything properly.
The bigger a deal you make of this the more uncomfortable both of you are going to be. Try to put this in perspective.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (12 January 2012):
 Well, that seems kind of weird that he would make a big deal out of it. I do not see the problem with reacting to a drug that you have never taken. He should have been able to tell what kind of reaction you would have by talking to you everyday for the last half year, roughly. I would be direct and honest with him and tell him that you are concerned, because it seems as if he has been short with you. If I like a girl and I was told that, what I would do is I would tell her to hold on. I would show up to her house and push her up against the wall and kiss her as I said WHATCHU TALKIN BOUT WILLIS! Point being, that if he likes you and is not a jerk off that leaves because of something that he should have foreseen as a major possibility, he will tell you straight up that you are wrong. Be direct and he will give you a direct answer back. I promise that you will find out, and I believe, if he is how you describe him, he is having those feelings of worry abotu you as well. After all, he gave you a weed brownie and you passed out and went to the emergency room! I would be a little unsure of myself too. You as the person who was the recipient of the drug and the one that passed out are the one that should be upset. If you are not, he should know. He is either a jerkoff, or he was worried about whether or not you hated him.
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