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writes: I was in a long-distance realtionship for many years. I fell madly in love with this guy, but sadly it was an on/off affair, due to his lack of commitment,distance etc. He did tell me he loved me, but we split earlier in the year because I found him cheating. Now months later he got in touch to apologise and wanted to get back together.I thought that maybe it was our chance to have a fresh start together, because I still have feelings for him. After apologising, two days later he said he wanted to see me, but the relationship could never be what I want. ie him being totally committed to me and us planning a future together. That really hurt and I wish he hadn't bothered contacting me.I said I wasn't interested in a no strings arrangement and said I would rather be on my own until I meet someone who loves me 100%. What really upset me the most was the fact he asked me what I was going to do for sex while I was single? So it makes me feel really miserable to think he apologised only because he wanted sex with me? Any comments readers?
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reader, gracie lou +, writes (16 September 2006):
 hey there. this guy seems like a real ass and its too bad that you fell for him. don't worry, theres gonna be a way better man out there for you. this guy doesnt respect you or your values one bit, and you need to forget about him. i was cheated on by my guy, but he realized his mistake and worked his ass off to get the relationship back to where it was. this guy you have on your hands is not willing to put the commitment in to you and fixing the relationship, so i say dump him and move on. but before you do move on, tell him that anything (if at all) in the sack while you're single would be better than sex with his sorry ass. haha hope this helps
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reader, sjd +, writes (16 September 2006):
 This is a tough situation for you especially long distance. You should not feel bad...it sounds like this guy is a real loser. You yourself said he cheated on you and that "the relationship could never be what I want. ie him being totally committed to me and us planning a future together." If he cheated on you and is not ready for committment, girl you deserve someone better. No guy deserves a committed loving girlfriend if he is going to cheat on her. I know this is not what you want to hear because you have feelings for him, but sweetie, he is a jerk and doesn't deserve the time of day you give him. He does not deserve your thoughts or concern. If he is going to treat you that way, there are a million other guys out there that won't treat you horribly. If you don't belive me, I have 3 single guy friends that are wonderful and awesome and know exactly how to treat a woman. Another thing, while it hurts that he apologized to get with you. Look at the bright side of this, you obviously did something right or that jerk wouldn't take a blow to his ego by apologizing so he could have relations with you. Now forget about him, he is the one losing out. Get yourself a real guy and not some cheating jerk...you deserve better than that! He does not deserve you!
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