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writes: Please help !.I'm 25 years old, and i have recently found my high school crush on Facebook !.He hasn't changed abit in ten years !.He is a year older than me, so he left the year before i did.Just to tell you abit about it, he found out i liked him because another girl in my year told him,obviously i had told her.Some of my friends asked him out for me afew times, but he always said no.However, every time he saw me, he winked at me.Believe me that gave me a confidence boost and made me enjoy going to school !.I used to get bullied at school, so i didn't have much confidence.He didnt know i got bullied though.I met him because we were in a play together,as some people from mine and his years at school ( you call it grades in America ) were in the play together.So because we werent in the same year, we only saw each other at breaktimes.He had a girlfriend at the time, so i was heartbroken about that.I remember once, i was sat on my own having lunch, my table was near to where he was lining up to get his lunch.I was turned away from him abit, and he kept blowing on my hair until i turned around.His friend who was stood next to him pointed to the empty seat opposite me and said " hey is that your imaginary friend ? " and the guy i liked looked at him and said " you b*****d ! ".I don't know if we can type swear words here !.Another time, he was sat in an empty classroom during breaktime with his friends, and me and my friends were outside near the classroom window.There was no on else around,and for some reason, he pulled a moony !.Lol,i didnt see it, as i ran away abit and covered my eyes,but my friends told me !.Another time, i was sat infront of him on the bus, and he kept pulling my hair gently until i turned around.We had abit of a chat, just in general.I liked him for a year and then he left school.Unfortunately,i didnt get to see him or keep intouch with him after that, until now.I havent spoken to him much yet,but i still feel like i fancy him !.The thing he, he has a girlfriend and a young daughter !.I'm not sure if the daughter is hers, it doesnt say on his page.I have changed alot since school with my looks and i am more confident.I wish something could happen now that we are older !.Or i wish we could at least meet up as friends and see how it goes, although i wouldnt go with him that way whilst he has a girlfriend.What can I do ?.Obviously i have dated other people during the last ten years,but now that i have found him, and because i am single and he hasn't changed, my feelings for him have come back.We didnt know each other that well at school,but now i would like to know him more.Do you think he just liked me as a friend at school, or do you think he fancied me, but was denying that he did ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): just to let you know, he accepted my friend request,which i suppose is a good sign ?.i'm not sure whether to write to him though,and i feell ike leaving a comment under some of his photos,or just one of them or something.
i think another thing that upsets me is that i wish i had been the way i am now back when i was in high school.i didnt like my appearance then.For example, i wore glasses and didnt wear makeup,and had a different hairstyle,whereas now i do wear make up,have a different hairstyle and dont wear glasses.i'm also more confident now.i would be surprised if he did like me in high school as i didnt think very highly of myself then but if he did,why did he deny it,and why did he have another girlfriend at the time ?.obviously i'm not gonna ask this,but i wonder what he thinks of me now.
i dont know why i'm bothered as i know a couple of guys who like me at the minute.i guess i just keep wondering " what if ? ".
ilovebowsandcherries, i would love to tell him that he made school worth going to,and that he helped build my confidence,and ask him if he felt the same back in school,but i'm not sure how to say it.i would be scared of him not responding, or deleting me or something.
he might not have felt the same though.it may be that he thought i was cute,in a friendly way,and was flattered that i liked him.the winking and sticking up for me,pulling my hair e.t.c makes me think otherwise though !.
there was also another time when i had gone home for lunch with my friend.i can't remember why,but i didnt go back to school after lunch,my mum dropped my friend back at school.The guy i liked was outside the school with his friends,and must have recognized my mum's car.my friend later told me that the guy had been rolling his tongue around lol as if he was imiating french kissing,sounds crazy i know !.he hadnt seen that it jsut my friend then,and when she got out the car,he stopped doing it.then he followed her to the classroom he was going to,we assumed he was following her to see if she was meeting me.so that's another thing that sounded suspicious !.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (21 May 2009):
 i think in high school he did like you i mean pulling of your hair him sticking up for you.
but at the moment as you've said he's got a kid and he's with a girl.
i mean you can arrange to meet up with him as friends and see what happens like i mean maybe the girl is the daughters mother and he may be happy in that relationship maybe this could the start to his family :)
maybe you like him now as you did in high school because you felt you never got the chance and you never really told him how you felt or knew how he felt.
so maybe tell him in high school you liked him and wondered whether he felt the same?
i mean it's all in the past now so whether he did or not won;t count for now because he's in a relationship with a child.
just keep as friends and see how that goes :)
Hope this helps hun.
best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): He has a girlfriend, so at the moment no, but maybe if they don't work out you can get together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): Also, once i was in the car, and i saw him.This was at the weekend.I rolled my window down and shouted to say hello to him and he turned away a little bit but he was smiling.
Apart from the title of this subject, i'm also wondering if you think me may have fancied me at school,or if he just liked me as a friend ?.
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