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writes:This question is for guys and guys alone.Now i want you to be completely honest with me.If you were dating a teenaged girl and you were a teenager yourself, and you wanted to have sex badly and she didn't, would you dump her? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 I think I can answer all the same.
I wouldn't dump her if I was dating her for who she is and because I cared about her. If I was dating just because I wanted sex.. then yes I'd dump her.
Illithid, his case was different. It's different when you are adults, or virgins, than if you are teenagers. As an adult, if the man I was dating wouldn't have sex with me, and not in the foreseeable future either, Id dump him. But if either is a virgin it's natural to wait until the person is ready for sex. Typically teenagers aren't ready for sex, while adults are. That is why I'd expect sex in an adult relationship (unless the man wanted to wait until marriage and I was so blissfully in love that I'd accept the wait). But I'd not expect sex in a teenage relationship.
If in an adult relationship the man isn't a virgin, and doesn't want sex for no particular reason, I'd dump him pretty fast. Sex is not everything, but its important all the same, in an ADULT relationship. Not in a teenage relationship.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (31 March 2011):
I'm a 26 years old men.
I would not dump her. If you dump her, you will be saying to her (implicitly) that you want her only for sex. Women don't like to feel like sex objects... they are humans, and have feelings, just as you.
If you are just interested in her for sex, just dump her, don't keep her suffering. You'll surely find a girl who wants sex with you (but not at that age... and the girls who will want to have sex with you will probably will be very shallow. You can try dating a girl several years above your age).
If you really love her, stay with her. She'll eventually have sex with you. Patience sometimes pays off big time.
Listen, I got my first girlfriend at the age of 23. I loved her, and didn't had sex with her. That doesn't mean that we didn't have steaming making out sessions [and I also groped her from time to time with her consent]. I also had the opportunity of touching her all over her body (just above her clothing). Then one day, after 1 year of being together, on my 24th birthday, she took me to her home, turned off the lights, she got naked, and she pleased me [she even gave me oral sex].
Although I penetrated her like 3 years later [we basically had non-penetrative sex for years], every time we got together naked it was amazing.
It's up to you man. Dumper and get quick and shallow sex. Stay by her, and worship how a flower opens it's petals just for you.
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 It varies from guy to guy. Everyone is different after all. However, if you really care for someone you would stay with them regardless of whether they have sex with you or not. If that were a reason for dumping somebody it would be very disrespectful and very inconsiderate one.
If you don't want to have Sex with your boyfriend yet, then don't, and don't until YOU are ready. Sex is a two-way thing and should only be participated in when both parties want to. It is as simple as that, and if he doesn't understand that and he dumps you, then frankly he isn't a great guy. You deserve someone who will respect the fact that you aren't ready for sex and will be patient, considerate and be respectful towards you.
Furthermore, I'd advise that you don't have Sex yet, because you are still very young. You have plenty of time to have sex in the coming years, so for now just enjoy life and don't have sex until you know within yourself that the time is right.
Good luck!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (31 March 2011):
 I nearly married a girl that wouldn't sleep with me. We were half way through planning the wedding, she was wearing her ring, and I meant it when I ask her to marry me, even without sex. The only reason we didn't get married was because she started having sex with someone else! If you aren't sleeping with your boyfriend, just be sure it's because you aren't ready yet and not because you're unattracted to him.
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