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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend because I was unhappy with the relationship. He didn't seem to want to be with me. We didn't hang out very much and when we did, it didn't seem like he was having fun. It was actually a really bad breakup and I really hurt him. Anyway, I found out that the weekend before, when I was very drunk, we had a really good conversation about everything (which I now remember) in which he explained everything and I realized he really loved me. But I forgot all about it and broke up with him the next day. I feel terrible and I really want him back. He was really a great guy and I loved spending time with him. I miss him so much. But he says he doesn't believe in getting back together with people. He thinks it never works... but I feel like we really could work. I just don't know how to go about getting him back without pushing him even further away. And he is incredibly stubborn. Any hints?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 If it didnt work out the first time what makes u think its going to work out the second? Did he tell u he loved u and that changed everything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Well, you say you were not happy because he didn't seem to want to spend time with you and even when you did, he wasn't really enjoying himself. Whether because he was preoccupied with numerous other issues not necessarily pertinent to your relationship, we don't know.Now you want him back - this incredibly stubborn man who has told you he doesn't believe in resuming things because he says that never works. With you thinking it could work, and him categorically thinking it won't, you've got a big problem.You could either go to him "hat in hand" asking him to give it one more try - but you're almost going to come across as begging.......not a good place for you to be.Therefore, my hint is you'd do better to let this go. I mean don't contact him at all. PERHAPS (I like to give a little - and I hope not false - hope) he MIGHT in a few weeks, possibly a few months time, change his mind on his own accord and get in touch. However, this is a slim hope at best, and it certainly will not work if you attempt to talk him out of his current position........sorry.
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