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writes:hello, I am above 20. all of my friends enjoy sex with their girlfriends but I fear that I will feel guilty doing so so I dont have sex with girlfriend and feel annoyed for that...Friends dont feel any guilt and live happily and I feel like I am missing something in my life because of my mind thinking so.. plz help... Reply to this Question
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reader, Yarou  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Well tis is something you should think of.
You dont have to do like your friends want to do. dont imitate them this is about you and her only.
And sex is not the only way to express your feelings ans its not about fun. its about choosing the right person to do it.
Its not a game .
ask for her opinion. goodluck xx
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Maybe if you think of it as making love, rather than just raw sex, your guilt will go away.
Sex is the ulimate expression of love with the right person. It is not to be thought of as dirty, or wrong!
What are your girlfriends feelings on the issue? Maybe neither one of you are ready to take the relationship to the next level. You will know when you are both ready. For now, open the lines of communication and begin to feel the intimacy between you. It is healthy to talk about these things with your partner.
Good Luck!
~BG~
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Without considering your friends and their lives, this is about you and your girlfriend. How does she feel about this decision not to have sex?
As far as guilt, that too comes from your beliefs around not doing it. When you are ready, don't see it as dirty, or feel guilt by doing it. In doing so, you're saying you're partner is dirty or not worthy to be touched. Sex, referred to sometimes as "making love", is the deepest expression of that love that two people can share. To me, that experience is nothing to feel guilty over.
Just remember, if you choose to have sex, do it for you, and not because of what anyone else is doing. Nothing can be right, if not done for the right reasons.
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