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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I had been having an affair for about 2 years with a former co-worker (I recently got a new job). He's married with kids, I live with someone. We spoke everyday, multiple times a day, on our way to and from work, sent each other goodnight emails and saw each other whenever possible. Recently, his wife found out about us.(she found an email I sent him) she emailed me to please stop. Upon reading the email, I contacted him. It was true, she found out and he asked that I not contact him any more. I'm devastated. I just don't know how he could be okay with not talking to me any more when talking to each other was part of our daily routine. I miss him terribly. I could understand not being able to call me from his cellphone or emailing me no longer (since she is probably keeping tabs), but nothing is stopping him from calling me from work. I'm having trouble understanding - How could he just forget about me and end our relationship so quickly, so fast and not be concerned about how I'm doing? It's been a over a week and he hasn't checked on me to see how I'm doing. Help!!!!!! I'm 33 by the way, old enough to know what I'm doing!?!?!?!?!?!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): Then be old enough to KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING to his wife!Put the boot on the other foot...your devastated...how can he...etc...do you not think for one minute his wife will be thinking the same..how can he...DAILY ROUTINE IS NOT THE SAME AS MARRIAGE. GROW UP AND GET YOUR OWN MAN. His wife even said PLEASE TO YOU...tut tut.You say you know what you are doing..then shame on you.via con dios.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 January 2009):
 He can forget you and end the relationship that quickly because he was never in your relationship 100%. His heart first and foremost should - probably did - belong with his wife and family... you were getting the short end of the stick, my friend! You were wasting your time with a man who was only giving you a small percentage of his heart.
He owes it to his wife to fix things, to repair their relationship and make efforts for a woman that he (at some point) wanted to spend forever with. He owes it to his kids to put all the energy and work into fixing their family. You owe it to yourself to let him go and find yourself a man who can give you his all.
Good luck, my dear. Break ups hurt, but this one is definitely for the best.
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