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writes:Hi, i need everyones opinion.Dont think of this as ohh its jsut another teacher problem, but actually just tell me an honest answere as i dont know if what im goin to do tomorrow will be a mistake.Okay so i am a senior at my high school and its good, i mean i get all the classes i want, i have so much free periods and also there is a prom at the end of the year =] however, i hate being in 6th year as i have wrongly fell for one of my teachers and i am quite frankly fed up of feelin this way! i cant do this anymore i dont know if its love or a crush- all i know is that i do have feelings for this man.Everyone just labels him as a pervert, but he is not. he is a lovely man who is talented and amazing and has been a good teacher to me for the past couple of years, he is a easy guy to get along with (that is if your female lol he doesnt get on with boys) he is funny, and he is like a 16 year old boy even tho he may be 40-something- we make jokes to each other and tease each other, bear in mind that i am not suggestin that he may have feelings for me as i am possitive that he doesnt as he is married and the chances of a guy like him likin me is very slim, infact not even slim its like 0%.anyways what my actual question is, is that i am thinkin of tellin him how i feel tomorrow, not for him to respond back or whatever but for him to shout at me and for me to retreat. bk to being just his student and not his friend or whatever i would rather have nothin to do with him rather than go on feeling like this. i know i will still feel somethin after tellin him but at least if he ignores me then i wont always be tryin to impress him and i wont walk in his department knowing that he is goin to say somethin that is gonna lead to me and him makin fun of each other palyfully! I cannot do it anymore honest i cant =[ so do i tell him?or do i leave it and just feel this way for like the rest of 6th year? then after school what will i do coz i know i wont get over him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I think you should tell him. But take everyones advice as this is your decision. i'm kind of in the same situation as you. But I am telling him at our formal... That way If he reacts quite badly atleast I wont ever see him again Lol. But I don't think he will go nuts if you tell him as he said that you can tell him anything if you do tell him and he goes nuts then just act calmly and say don't worry or somethng I dunno improvise. what u could do is make a joke about it one day and say omg you no when I first met you I had the hugest crush on you it was soo funny coz i tried to impress you. But i got over it. Just see what he does but thats all I have to say. So I hope you make the right decision. N goodluck
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reader, lookingatyou +, writes (14 December 2007):
right... i've got a lot of experience in this area and i say DONT tell him.
it happened to my friend, she told her teacher he flipped out, told his principal- then my friend was quizzed by other teachers and got suspended. he became paranoid about her, saw her one night near his class, and then flipped. the police were at her door accusing her of sexual harrassment. she was only 16 and got a caution. its not worth it because believe you me- the whole of the teachers will know about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey ppl, i was gonna tell him yesterday :O but then i got in an argument with my mate n then all my other mates were arguin in his class and then he came thro shoutin at us n stuff like tht... but blah blah blah he said to me on tuesdya tht i can tell him anything and he hopes tht i know tht?? i htink im gonna tell him tomoz! i mean i dnt care if he ignores me at least he wont be there for me when i wanna have a laugh or have a giggle which means tht i can jsut concentrate on skl work and maybe tp get close to this guy in my class, hes kindda cute but i think if i try to concentrate on sum1 else hell bk off a bit
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): i really want to say tell him but you could ruin your relationship and if he does feel the same way you could get in trouble. I think its best to leave it, at least till you leave when you could maybe tell him or wright a letter! x
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reader, Cupid-oOx +, writes (21 November 2007):
Dont tell him.
1. It could ruin your relationship if he doesnt feel the same
2. Its ILEGAL !
Your just going to have to live with that feeling.
Dont worry we've all been through it!
Anyway hope everything works out perfectly fopr you and if you do tell him wich i strongly advise you dont
Good luck.
Yours...
Cupid 33
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Part of me says 'don't tell him!', but at the same time, if this is a serious problem for you, you need to deal with it. You shouldn't suffer because you want to hide your feelings--be honest with him. If you do tell him, be prepared for him to reject you and become uncomfortable around you. You'll loose whatever connection you have now. The question is more: is it worth it to sacrifice your friendship for more emotional stability, or do you not mind feeling this way because while it can be lonely, it's still that feeling. Emotional turmoil, though difficult, at least is exciting--you're never bored, and you have hope rather than a feeling of rejection and loneliness.I'd say hold on to it while you have it. Don't screw up your relationship; you obviously find some sort of enjoyment in his attention. If it's bad enough were it's making you sad, tell him so the sadness will stop. Bottom line: don't make yourself sad... aim for happiness, however temporary, because a longterm relationship with him is not going to happen. He's married. Don't kid yourself. Hope that helped...
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reader, Emzy1591 +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Its a crush, dont tell him because you could ruin the student-teacher relationship that you have with him right now. It will pass i assure you, try going out with friends and meeting guys that way, im sure once you have something new to focus your attention on, your feelings will go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): i would NOT tell him. it is going to cost his job and you. people will look at you as a weirdo and he will be totally freaked out by you which will make him feel uncomfortable. if you still don't buy into my advise then just tell him in private at least, not public. but i honestly think you should bare with the year and move on.
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