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writes:I always wanted the relationship, but is having better sex worth leaving? I love my bf with ALL my heart and we are both stable and mature enough to get married. but my friend wants to sleep with me, and unlike my low testosterone bf, this guy can be the first to make me cum while having sex! So what do i do?!? Reply to this Question
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reader, janice201149 +, writes (25 July 2012):
 I definitely go for good relationship! Its not about a temporary pleasure that you can get, its about the love and foundation that you made together, and I'm pretty sure your all sacrifices just to make him happy and to be with him, If you really mean you LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART, you will not cheat! Loving with all of your heart is not about selfishness its a matter of deep understanding, patience and sacrifice my dear. I am pretty sure that he will get hurt if he found out that you're planning to sleep with your friend. remember this: DO NOT DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO UNTO YOU! RESPECT is a MUST
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (25 July 2012):
 What do you think? Do you want a relationship where the two people really don't care about one another and have terrific sex. Or do you want a relationship where there is caring, trust, respect, etc?
Relationships aren't about making someone cum. If that is all you want from someone, then go for it. But if you want more, you'd better stay with your boyfriend.
Besides that, getting involved with a friend just for sex can be a very tricky proposition. Be very careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): how do you know he can make you cum. could be he is bragging.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): Person12345 beat me to the punch. Those are my thoughts exactly. You arent mature enough to get married if just because your bf has low t you want to leave him to get sex elsewhere. Low t is treatable for one and second if you really loved him, you would be looking for ways to improve your sex life with your bf, not considering sex with another man. Do what ever you are going to do. But if it were me i would urge him to get treatment and support him through it. In the meantime if you want it and he doesnt you can always have him use toys on you, get into foreplay, oral sex etc. I wouldnt risk a wonderful relationship, for someone who might be able to make you orgasm/cum from sex.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 July 2012):
 First off, you say you are stable and mature enough to get married, and yet you are considering dumping your boyfriend just because someone else wants to use you for sex. I have a hard time believing you really love your boyfriend if you are wanting to leave him just to have a one night stand.
I'm going to assume you haven't already slept with this guy/cheated, at least that's how I'm reading your question (it's a bit unclear). If you have problems with your sex life, you need to try to work them out with your boyfriend. If you think your sex life is bad because you can't orgasm from sex, then you are going to be fairly disappointed with whoever you are with. Around 75% of women can't orgasm from sex. So if you can't, it doesn't reflect on your boyfriend at all, it just means you are like the vast majority of women who need external stimulation.
If you are unsatisfied with your relationship or your boyfriend, then leave. But I think it's a terrible idea to do so because one of your friends wants to get laid. Especially since in almost every instance ever sex is way way way better with someone you know well than with someone new.
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