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writes:I just don't know what to do : (. My husband and I have been married for about 4yrs. We are going through some rough times right now between us both losing our jobs,being evicted,both cars being repoed and the death of 3 famliy members with in the past yr. I try and try to talk to him and he just pushes me away. He stays out drinking and when I say anything about it I get my head chewed off. He says he is used to handling things by his self. All I do is cry and I feel like he wants me to just leave and our marriage doesn't matter to him. Any advice would be very appreceated. Reply to this Question
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I find a lot of men do this they don't like to show their emotion and seems like your husband is one of those men
my best advice if like AuntyEm said tell him you are their for him when he wants to talk and just let him do his thing for now BUT if his drinking gets worse and you see no signs of things getting better for the both of you or for his emotions then i strongly suggest you seeking a councillor or the very last suggestion would be leaving him at least until he realizes his actions have hurt you, you deserve a husband that doesn't drink his sorrows away and we all know drinking doesn't fix anything you also deserve someone that will support you as well during the rough times there is only so much a wife can handle on her own during times like this
I wish you luck and I hope your husband comes around after a little healing time
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I know it's hard but let him have his space. It's a very male thing to go 'into a cave' when troubles descend. It's like a catepillar going into a cocoon...and while he is in there he's going to be trying to work through a solution.
You have had a tough time so try to lean on family and friends for support. Let him know you still love him and then just let him be...eventually he will come back to you.
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