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reader, Ben Hi  +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Ha mate your going frow puberty its somethin you cant stop so enjoy the ride. Im gay and Im 16 and I know that because I am atracted to men and your 11 so dont worry about it you will know when the time is right but for now dont worry.
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reader, Damaged Dan +, writes (17 October 2009):
listen i have the same problem and i am 11 as well dont worry your not gay and a this age we don t even know for sure so don t worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): dont worry i also look down its perfectly normal you are probably nervous about what is happening
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Dude! (13 years old)
I respect the fact that u want a serious answer. I hated the answers that told me I was a fag. so here is a serious answer. Just because u look at yourself does not mean u r gay. This is coming from a gay guy. Only you can tell if u r gay. But if you are just let it b. I am happy that I am gay and wouldn't let anything change about that. don't come out of the closet 4 a while or it could ruin your childhood. wait until at least college or out of highschool. If not that is cool too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): dude even though i am a girl, i don't think u are gay it just normal. Im going through puberty 2. I also look at myself because it dosent seem like me especially when i have my period U are so lucky u are a boy. Girls get made fun of because their going through puberty but trust me u are not GAY!!!!!!!!!!!!
LOVE YA
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): ive read some of the other responses and they are kind of creepy. just because you look at yourself doesnt mean your gay, theyre right about that. you are just getting to know your body and you should..puberty is different for all kinds of people. just talk to your parents(if your dads around go to him) and he will help you through it all.it may be akward but beneficial.if you think by just by looking at yourself makes you gay.. your wrong. its your body. your fine
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): yeah its all good bro:)
Looking doesn't mean your gay.
just don't worry about it and remember that everybody goes through it.
I had the same problem but you'll grow out of it soon.it might not seem like it now,but trust me,when your older,your gunna be glad it happened.:)
But until then,just don't even worry about it and enjoy everything that's happening.
:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Dude don't worry
i had the same thing happen here
just cause your seeing yourself in the bath it doesn't mean your gay
it just means your curious to see whats down there
and if you are gay
i totally respect that
and masturbating is just playing with yourself
also not gay
and totally normal
and sometimes pretty damn fun
so have fun with puberty Bro :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): when going through puberty u might feel gay cause it happened to me and yeah you might sleep with a guy or two but then u start to see thatt your actually not gay and start dating women cause i went through all that s**T whe i was growing up so sleep wit some gay guys suck em up and see if you like it or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): hey man...its good to blow steam once in a while. jacking of feels mad good so do it wenever with whoever. if u like porn with females in it then ur not gay...its that simple
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): What you are doing is perfectly normal. I presume you have learned how to masturbate to ejaculation which is AWESOME at your age. Don't fear experimenting with guys -- just jacking off together is simply fun and doesn't mean you are gay. It's fun to learn from each other help the other achieve more pleasure. You are TOTALLY normal. . .ENJOY YOURSELF!!
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reader, chriskindofnervas  +, writes (5 August 2007):
chriskindofnervas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh no way in hell do i do those type of things(i dont think theres anything wrong with it its just being gay)but i find interest in girls but but i have done research and realized its just masterbaiting and exploring that im doing so i know im not gay now
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): hey chris,
i'm will and im 12. i am pretty far through puberty - arm pit hair, pubic hair, large penis and testicles, voice cracking, etc. - and i have the same feelings. i find myself constantly thinking about penises and my friends penises and such. i look at mysely in the shower, infront of the mirror, and want to undress infront of other guys when im in the locker room. now i'm a christian, and being gay is basically frowned upon (plus i don't want to be gay.) i think i'm just trying to compare my penis to other people's penises. i would guess many of the guys i know do and think the same things. don't worry, i think its normal!
- Good luck,
Will
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): as a gay teen myself i did look at myself in the mirror alot when i was first going through puberty but i think it was beacuse my body was changing and i was curious/facinated about it however i do not think it had an influence on me being gay as i know alot of my straight friends looked at them selves too as you grow up you will realise your sexuality im not going to tell you your straight because you could be gay but when you get strong sexual urges for the same/opposite sex you will know .ho you are.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (20 July 2007):
Looking at yourself does not make you gay. Being only attracted to males makes you gay. Your welcome to google puberty and read up on it. It should answer more of your questions. good luck!
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reader, 911help +, writes (20 July 2007):
 It is very normal to want to look at your body. Most men walk past a mirror and still check out all parts of their bodies when they are older. You are going through alot of changes and it is perfectly normal to want to look and touch yourself. If there is an adult to talk to, they might be able to explain more or do research on the net. I do not think your gay, you are a typical young man going through puberty. Good Luck!
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reader, chriskindofnervas +, writes (20 July 2007):
chriskindofnervas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok because im not interested in other boys only girls but i was wandering if that was a sighn of gay and by look i mean what the anonymous person said but i dont plan to get to detaily on what was happening
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 July 2007):
 Yep, I agree with LauraE. You're gay when you're into sex with other men exclusively; you're not gay for looking at yourself to check on the changes you're going through.
In short: Don't worry.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (20 July 2007):
We need some men to answer this really - anyone there?
But for what it's worth, it sounds pretty normal me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): Maybe you are just interested in what changes are happening to your body during puberty. That doesn't mean that you are gay. I don't think that you can even tell until several years after puberty anyway about what sexuality you really are. By the sounds of things you don't understand what the word masturbating is. Masturbating is when someone touches and plays with their genitals, not just looks at themselves. You are only 11 and most 11 year olds don't understand that much on the topic of puberty so don't worry. You could ask trusting adults more about puberty or even get books from the library about it.
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