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writes: My boyfriend is 24 and im 33 i am ready to settle down get married and have children but he says hes too young yet. What do i do time is running out for me. Do i wait till he is ready or fine someone else am i wasting my time. I dont know what to do i really love him and cant live without him please help
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (17 January 2007):
You cannot force him to be ready or speed it up no matter how much you love him. He may never be ready.
If you cannot wait, then you need to find someone who is ready.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
You need to ask him if he thinks he'll be ready anytime soon. Tell him how much you want to get married and have kids and how you want it to be with him but make sure he's aware that time is running out for you kids wise and that you need to start thinking about it soon. Possibly he'll be willing to compromise for you or perhaps he'll tell you he doesn't want kids and marriage in which case at least you know and you can make a decision based on his.
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (17 January 2007):
WEll.I'm married so I'm a step ahead of you. BUT..I'm 34 and hear my biological clock ticking all the time. My husband is 33 and the baby thing just keeps getting pushed back for one thing or another. He says when he finishes school in 1 1/2 years then we can start trying..hello! That will put me having my first child at about 37! I'm struggline with the decision to get out myself.
He is right. He is too young. You do realize that if you force him into this.. you will be a single mom and yet, another child will probably be living with divorced parents. My suggestion is..either give him some more time to grow up, realize that "OUR" biological clocks seem to be ticking longer in this day and age, or move on. Sorry..but those are the obvious choices. BEST of Luck to YOU.
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reader, Ellis74 +, writes (17 January 2007):
Hi there. I too am nearly 33 (only two weeks to go) and my boyfriend is 24. I have known him three years and finally, having thought long and hard about what this relationship would entail, he decided we should be together. It was a bumpy ride to say the least and this site was a GREAT help. I too want to have children and he knows that and I want to get married again (I have been married before - divorced 4 years this year) but he has said it does not scare him and he wants the same thing just not yet. I agree with him. I finally feel good about myself and my life and I dont want to rush things. 24 is quite young for him to settle down with kids and I know that you being older does not help what with the "biological clock". What you really need to ask him (unless you have?!?) is, ok, so you do not want to now but do you think you will in the future and if so how long are we looking term wise. Remember, women are having babies in later life - its not impossible just slims your chances a bit. Don't give up yet, not if you really love him, but if he says not til he's early 30's (which is far too long to wait) or no he doesn't want to settle with kids, then you need to ask yourself is love enough. I can tell you now it wont be - I know because that is why I am divorced! I hope I have helped in some way. Good luck hun!! x
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