A
male
 ,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidA couple of years back I went out on a date with a girl I met via a speed-dating event. We speed-dated then went on one date subsequently. I took her ice skating outdoors, it was Xmas, we had fun then went for a bite to eat. Both of us are self-sufficient people and don't live your classic "9-5" routines. I am often abroad and she seems to lead a jet-set lifestyle. She is around 5 years older than me. I am 27, she is early thirties. I understand that I am wealthier than her and I suspect she has desires to eventually marry a guy with money (something which is at the back of my mind). Anyway we kept in "light" touch on and off via the occasional txt or email. Like, once every 4 months or longer! Fast forward to last week. She txt'd me out of the blue (at 1.30am!) and asked if I would like to join her in her villa in the South of France (she normally lives in London and I had no idea she was in France at the moment). I texted back the next day and said "yes, assuming that wasn't a drunken text and it still seems like a good idea!".. we texted back and forth to make arrangements and I have now booked my flight. Owning my own business and not having any other commitments I thought "why not".She has promised to pick me up from the airport. Well, I head out there next week. My question is..................... what will happen!? Is this just ridiculous!? It will be nice to be sitting in the sun in Southern France but the stark reality is that at this moment in time we hardly know each other! The first hurdle will be...... will she actually be there waiting for me!? Your wisdom, anyone?
View related questions:
drunk, money, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): I agree with Camille. You can get to know her in France. See how that goes and take it from there. Tell your family and friends that you are going to see a friend - as after all that is probably all she is at the moment (and depending on how things go she might be your girlfriend by the time you get back).
A
male
reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (5 September 2006):
 You're 27, right?
Tell them you are going to join the French Foreign Legion. . . not that it's any of their business. LOL.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so far guys I will post an update after I return. What should I tell friends/family!? They will think I'm nuts. Just say I'm visiting a friend over there?
...............................
A
female
reader, theskycastle +, writes (5 September 2006):
 I think it's not crazy to organize a date with her. I think both of you are old enough to actually show up for a date. Don't worry, I think she'll be there waiting for you at the airport. Just keep communicating. For example, gave her a call a day or two before to let her know time of your flight and maybe flight number. I hope you will have a great time with her.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): Ohh, I would love a postcard !!
...............................
A
male
reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (5 September 2006):
Why wouldn't she be there? She invited you didn't she? She's not a psycho is she? Go and have fun. Send us postcards. LOL.
...............................
A
female
reader, camille +, writes (5 September 2006):
 So, get to know her in the South of France! It's a good a place as any. As you said, "why not"? One thing though, you made reference to thinking you are wealthier than her and she may wants a man with money, perhaps rid that thought from your mind as she sounds like an independent woman who invited you to join her, so maybe drop your preconceptions before you go? Just go and enjoy each other's company and there's no pressure to move it on further if that doesn't feel right. You're 2 single people, there's no harm. If she's not there, surely your wealth could stretch to a guest house?
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): You have already made a commitment to be there. Still, you don't owe her anything and if you are having doubts then don't go.
I don't think it is crazy. It seems she thinks you like the idea and life that she has going as well.
She didn't ask you to marry her. She just invited you to hang with her in France.
You have only one way of finding out if she will be there waiting for you; go.
Good Luck.
...............................
|
