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God led me to his front door but now it's been closed! Why is he playing with my heart?

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Question - (22 September 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 22 September 2008)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

The relationship started with divine circumstances. God, literally, led me to his front door. A simple question turned into an hour long conversation ending with him asking for my number and to see me again. He called immediately. That was June 4th 2008. At first, he couldn't get enough of me. He's 42, never married, no kids, owns is own business, etc. I'm 36, single, 2 teenage boys. We are both well-educated and have a lot in common and are very attracted to each other. Our b-days are even only a day apart.

His mother visited for 2 weeks 3 weeks before I left for a 2 week long business trip. Up until she came we spent every night together in each others arms savoring the intimacy and agreeing to hold off on sex. We had sex for the first time just before I left for that business trip and it lasted for an entire day of sexcapade. While I was gone, he took care of my house, mail, plants, even cleaned out my freezer that had gone out and all the food rotted in my garage. He picked me up from the AP when I got back and the night together was the most passionate ever.

My parents were in town then bringing my kids back so we were limited in time together. THIS is when stuff got kinda crazy. He told me a few times that he thought he was missing out on something because he didn't have kids and thought he was ready for that in his life. I let him talk - it wasn't a 2-wayt conversation per sey. But then when he would leave he started to avoid me. He wouldn't call for a week. When I would call, it would take him longer and longer to return my call. Now, he's really confusing me and I feel like my heart is being played with.

I rain into him Friday evening and we talked for about 40 minutes and he asked me if it was OK if he can call me. I said yes, he asked what I was doing later that night. I told him. He asked if he could call me after his gig and I said yes. He said he would. I still haven't heard from him.

Why does he keep playing with my heart? Does he need to feel like he always has this open door or something? I just don't get it.

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A female reader, Serenity1 United States +, writes (22 September 2008):

Serenity1 agony aunti'm also a spiritual person and if God led you to him, he will come to you (if it's God sent).

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A female reader, Serenity1 United States +, writes (22 September 2008):

Serenity1 agony auntfrom what I hear you might just need to ignore him for a while, because he seems to feel that he has you where he wants you. dating is nothing but a game and it's really unfortunate, but it is. are you sure he doesn't have a woman, that he had already been talking to before you met him? maybe they were on the outs when you all were have your sexcapades. you really just never know. but even if he was trying to ignore you for a while and make you want him more, or spending time with another woman, he's wrong for not contacting you within a couple of days. maybe when you went out of town he got lonely and strayed off. You just never know.

us women we know in our hearts when someone really loves us, and honestly I've been messing with someone since 6/08 also and we can't go no more than a day without talking to each other and that only happened once. when you're really feeling someone you can't go to long without talking or seeing them. on the other hand like he said he wants kids so he may be looking for someone who feels the same, but at the same time personally if he's 42 he would have been have had kids if he could.

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