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writes:see i use to like this guy when he was studying with me i use to look at him in class because he's so cute well he asked me out and we've been going out for like 4 months and in this period i've never hated any one as much i do not like him when i knew him i recognized that he's so shallow and cheap ,well i bought him dinner for so many times and paid for taxis so many times and for gifts well he never brought me any thing and its so embarassing in front of my friends because their boyfriends keeps getting stuff for them and they keep asking me where did he take you or what did he get you and i feel more embarassed by that , so girls would you stay with a guy like that !!, and guys would you accept your girl friends to pay unstead of you each time !!! plz help
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Heck no. I've been on first dates with shallow and cheap guys but never a second. I would definitely not go on with someone I hate...if you detest this guy so much why are you still together?
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reader, Sexy cat +, writes (28 June 2009):
DUMP HIM just by the look of ur post he is cheap and shallow just like u said so dump him !
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Almost forgot to mention, I met a guy like this my first year of college.
Il me parait un cochon!! Il y a beaucoup des hommes dans le monde, bonne chance :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (28 June 2009):
If he can't afford it, it's one thing, but it sounds to me like he's just taking advantage of you.
I wouldn't stay with him.
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reader, drumstickx  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 erm, i think you should speak to this boy & if he doesn't change then finish with him, & you shouldnt feel embarrased infront of your friends well i guess you are so speak to them tell them & see what they think about it , but i would stay with him. suppose it depends how much you love the person eh ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): Hmmm... cheap and shallow...
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reader, marycontrary +, writes (27 June 2009):
Is he returning the favor of paying for things? If it's 50-50 then that's enough. If it's about competition among girls, money isn't the only thing to compare between boyfriends. Make sure you like him and not the attention, either from him or from your competitive girlfriends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): You should so DUMP this guy sounds like a realy cheap rat ! You sounds like a wonderful sweet person and i am sure there is a long line of guys just wishing you were free so they coud date you. He lets you pay because you are a sweet person leave your money at home next time and order an meal dump him and walk out and let him pay !
Dont stand for bad manners
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (27 June 2009):
The best thing you can do is sum up the good and bad, theres your answer. And just for the record its thought normal for the guy to pay for the first meal and then go halves the rest, i usally stick with halves its fair that way. Set your limits if he crosses them after youve told him how your feeling then you know its time to go, dont be used by a waster. If i personally felt he was cheap and shallow i would have left a long time ago, you obviously feel deeper to have to ask the question so why not tell him how you feel and see the reaction/change you get.
If none then at least you tried.
Best of luck
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (27 June 2009):
 If you feel like this why are yoiu with him? He should pay for you, well at least offer to pay for you. It sounds like you aren't meant to be together if he's that shallow and self centered. Get someone else, you deserve better=)xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): In answer to the question title, no I would not.There's definately not a balance between you two, I don't know how much he earns, but even so he should still offer to go halves with you at LEAST, now and again.Some girlfriends like to spoil their guy but you're not happy about that, so you should sit down and bring it up (nicely). Explain that it would be nice if he offered to pay for things now and again or contribute to the payment, how ever little, when you're out.If he is able to afford things and is just being tight, then yes you are being taken granted for. He still might know this (unlikely), so still talk to him about it before you decide whether it's worth breaking up with him over it.
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