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writes:I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months now and we are in love : ) I want to propose to her because I know she's the one. I have a plan all worked out, I'm going to put 'You Are So Beautiful' on by Joe Cocker (I think that sums her up and how I feel about her) and present her with the ring while it's playing.. The thing that I am unsure of is when to ask her, I dont know weather to wait until April (2 years to the day that we 1st went out) or my other option is Christmas day. What do you all think? Would one be better than the other? Also, is there any other bit of advice on when I ask her (eg candles)?Thanks for all your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): I always felt that those that get engaged on Christmas are let down. I already know I'm getting gifts on Christmas, and feel that engagements are extremely sentimental for years to come--between the two of you. So having the most important day of my life (securing a life long dream with my best friend) to become a holiday gift (some of which are obligatory) seems wrong.
I had never gotten past that to consider anniversaries like the other posts---but completely agree.
The anniversay day is fine---but sort of predictable.
For me---the best part of any engagement would have some meaning--but that could be the place, the activity we're participating in when I'm asked---the sentimentality can come from other ways.
Your anniversary of meeting has its place already. Create a new place, a new song, a new everything will make it all special.
Research the internet for some great engagement stories. You'll find a couple that help you build one for the two of you. Don't rush it--take the time to plan something thoughtful. It will make all the difference.
Congratulations on finding someone you love so very much.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Ahem, Did I forget to mention? We also have a child born close to Christmas and another child born close to Thanksgiving, so we really know what it is like to have a personal special occasion close to another holiday. My children have mentioned their own unhappiness with how things worked out over various BD's. They would have preferred their own day, far away from a holiday. Just food for thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Mignon Mclaughlin said:
"The head never rules the heart, but just becomes its partner in crime".
I suggest Old Years eve. I like the idea of starting the new year, with a new status(engaged) and new beginings.
Congratulations.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (27 October 2008):
Hi!
My Husband and I have birthdays three days apart, and things often get lost (such as a banner year, say 30th, or W/E) or are overlooked because of the lack of space between our birthdays, but WE obviously didn't have any choice in the matter! You definitely have a choice. If you celebrate your engagement on a night of your own choosing, you won't have to share it with another occasion. Christmas will always be a wonderful, special day, and so will every OTHER occasion! You should pop the question on your Own Special Day. Why not choose another day to have a reason to have a special personal celebration every year, even if it's just a romp in the hay! Then it's just for YOU, and you will STILL have ALL of those others days to share together! ;^D
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): I like Dusky's idea! What a wonderful way to begin the 2009---new year, new beginnings! And Congratulations on the upcoming engagement..best wishes and keep us posted on what you decide to do..good luck. Irish xx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Oh darling what a lucky young lady you have, you sound like an absolute sweety :D. Propose to her on New years day on the stroke of midnight, that will be a great start to the New year and fab memorable one too.Good luck my love xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): awwwwwww i'd so go for xmas - how romantic!!! X let us know x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): I agree with maid Marian. She'll be too overwhelmed by everything else on Christmas Day. Don't do it on Valentine's Day or other holidays either. I'd either choose April or maybe some other special day if you have one.
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reader, This_face +, writes (26 October 2008):
If I were you I'd do it in April. That way it will be a special day just for you two and you won't have to compete with Christmas. Although Christmas is generally a family time and all that, and so she might be in the sort of mood to be proposed to, it just isn't such a good time. Also since April is when you began going out it sort of connects it all together. When you ask her I think you should get down on your knee. That makes it very romantic and special. The fact that you have a song picked out and everthing shows you're really making sure it is special. You really only get one chance to do it right, so I'm glad to hear you're really thinking it out. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): I like pepper27's answer. I would be so happy if my boyfriend proposed to me on Christmas Eve. It sounds sooo romantic :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): no no no, dont do it on christmas. Christmas day is such a big event in itself, you want your proposal to be its own special thing! You could even do it on a totally seperate day, because then you could have a proposal aniversary as well as a wedding anniversary! But if you do it on christmas, your fiancee wont be able to jsut focus on you and being happy about getting engaged, she'll have all the rest of the christmas-y things on her mind!
Luck and happiness! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): i go for christmas as its a really magical time of the year, and i think that would give her something to remember and her christmas really special!
Good Luck!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Im going for christmas, Make one room all special full of candles and incense low light make it a special relaxing moment wait untill evening so this could be done christmas eve late just at 12 midnight, Pop some music on and have your special song ready and then ask the important question hunny...What a lovely christmas present that will be for you both and christmas day I bet she wont stop smiling GOOD LUCK HUNNY WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Personally, I would rather be proposed to on a day other than Xmas or another big occasion; I think doing it on your anniversary is much better. That was it's really special and about the two of you. Everyone celebrates at Xmas, and I just think it wouldn't be as special. Plus then you will always have an excuse for another celebration down the years! There's always so much going on at Xmas, and I would leave it until later. I also feel that xmas can be a family time, and you probably want to spend your anniversaries with your partner, so again would say wait until later. When you ask her there are so may options; something romantic is good though; yes candles and flowers etc, although I would favour maybe going somewhere which is special to the two of you and where you have some happy, personal memories. I'm sure the other aunts and uncles have lots of other ideas! Good luck! I love happy queries like this!
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