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writes:I am finding my girlfriend's sister really annoying lately and feel like I'm getting to the point where im gonna say something or snap.I'm trying to be understanding because she has recently got out of a long-term relationship, moved back home where my gf lives and dived into another relationship (which sounds like her partner is controlling) has been very clingy and emotional to my gf and her family which I can understand. The other day she made a comment about me and laughed with her new partner about it. I was ready to say something but kept my mouth shut. I've been trying to avoid her as much as I can. what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 One possible approach is to ask, calmly and a bit earnestly, "I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you meant by that comment. You said, '[insert comment here] and then laughed. Could you explain?" Look at her intently with a calm expectant look on your face.
In other words, play dumb, keep asking for clarification and don't stop until she either gets the message or possibly even apologizes.
Do not show any sign of anger or anxiety. The key is to be blandly earnest and just a bit in her face without aggression.
Or, failing that, just snap and say something to let her know you don't appreciate her comments. Just because someone is getting over a breakup doesn't give them carte blanche to be rude.
"Hey, Claire, when you said [insert her snotty comment here], I felt hurt. It felt unkind and snotty and I would appreciate it if you would not do that anymore. I have been nothing but courteous and kind toward you and I don't appreciate being treated like that. Thank you."
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reader, Honest-Lu  +, writes (13 January 2016):
Tell her straight!
Explain the rude remarks are annoying you and you don’t like it. Don’t pussy foot around because it is your girlfriend’s sister. But also don’t be rude yourself, I tell my husband’s mother straight if she says something I don’t like and she respects me for that. Good luck
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reader, Slippers +, writes (13 January 2016):
Hello It sounds to me like your gf sister is jealous of the relationship that you have with her sister and extend family .. I think at the minute your doing the right thing in biting your tongue and smiling through it .. doesn't mean you have to like it or accept it for ever . If she amps it up, them by all means step in with a " that's a mean comment " or " really, how do you make that out " But I would let her tongue rattle and when she does svc normal recommends this so here goes " get up and walk into another room " Inform your gf that you mean to do this, if these comments keep occurring ..Hopeful, her bitterness will ease .. just you keep focus on what's important your relationship with your gf and ignore her ..Chin up ..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 January 2016):
 What kind of comment did she make?
Personally, I see nothing wrong in standing up for yourself if she flings out random rude crap.
Have you asked your GF what's up with her sister?
I don't really see her having broken up recently and enter a new relationship as a good excuse to be rude to you.
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