A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm almost 17 and this is my last school year. My mom have this 'bohemian "evening" dress' that was made in Indonesia, which my gran got her but my mom never wore it so she gave it to me. I'm grateful for that and all cause the dress fits me and it's real pretty in it's own way, but... that is the only dress that is 'ideal' for my matric farewell this year! The dress is a type of maroon with bohemian patterns on and it has this kind of "rope" that you can pull by the waist so that you can actually see where the waist is. It's one of those dresses that looks like two rectangular pieces of material stitched together and there you have the dress. Now I don't mind wearing the dress, with the sandals that goes with it, but somehow I feel like it doesn't fit my view of a matric farewell dress. Don't get me wrong it's beautiful, but still. We don't have money to go spending on a dress that fits that event 'properly' and I already told my parents that this is the dress I'm gonna wear because that is actually my only option. I suppose the problem is that I can't get rid of this feeling of 'envy'. Envy because the other girls of last year had a little bit "better dresses". I know I will be fine and all but still. Their dresses were more 'flowy' and had more bling on. And that's not the only problem here. I'm not allowed to date yet for another 2 to 3 years which I understand. Now we are allowed to invite someone to the farewell party that's not a matric. And I have this guy in mind. He's just a few months younger than me and we are in the same school and he's not a matric yet, not until next year. We are friends.Now how do I tell my parents that I want to invite him to the matric farewell just as friends, without them getting the wrong idea and ruining everything. I don't have a problem asking him, but how do I get that into my parents heads that we're going as friends?! They're a bit old-school so that about covers it. Pls help.
View related questions:
money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2016): (The matric farewell girl) -Lol, thanks CindyCares, you really made my day! :) I'm a real soft type of girl so these kind of things get easily to me. But I am learning to ignore those things. Thanks again.*sings Hall of fame*
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 Yes, we'll keep our fingers crossed too :).
But even if you don't convince your parents... don't let this spoil your mood; go anyway, take some girlfriend along with you, and have a blast. Remember, it would not be fair to your schoolmates to deprive them of the chance to feast their eyes on your dazzling, exotic, elegant self !
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2016): (The matric farewell girl) -
Thank you soooooo much CindyCares! I really appreciate your advice and all. It really helped!
I'm now not worrying about the farewell but instead happy and excited!
I now just hope my parents will approve of my friend going with me. Fingers crossed.
Once again thank you. :)
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares +, writes (13 January 2016):
One man's trash is another man's treasure...
While I was reading the description of your evening dress , I was positively green with envy.
I love this kind of " boho " , ethnic dresses, and here in Italy they are very hard to find and very expensive . Or else you can order them on line from India, Indonesia etc... and it takes forever for the parcel to arrive, with hefty shipping fees and the risk of getting something different from your order. Moreover, I only indulge very occasionally my taste for this kind of clothing, because at my age I risk building up the " old washed out hippy " effect , which I am not fond of. But if I were 17 , " boho " fashion would only make me look exotic, glamorous and unusual !
So, since you have economical constraints and really no other option- see the glass half full, and embrace this chance to be unique and creative and diverse. What a drag, all those flouncy ,girlie or " fake hot " prom dresses ( I suppose that's what a matric dress is like )-
dare to be different ! Innovative. The girl who will stand out in a crowd.
As for the " bling " , if you just can't do without some bling, add some ( fake ) jewelry . Bangles , earrings, danglers--- it's all inexpensive stuff which can add some pizzazz, though , to a too sober outfit.
Oh and let me teach you a little trick for a really stunning , head turning effect. Google " punjabi paranda " or " Bollywood paranda " and order one from Ebay or Etsy or something ( They don't cost much at all ).
A paranda is an obviously fake ( it's ok, it's not supposed to look natural ) long braid in silk or cotton or synthetic hair , matching your dress colour, or any colour you want, and with little shiny or golden or pearly ornaments at the end. Well I am not giving you a very good description, but.. just Google it.
You braid it together with your natural hair ( if you have long hair ) or you attach it with combs / hairpins . The result is a long, big, fat, sexy, exotic braid that will make you look and feel like a princess. Try to believe.
Don't worry, I am sure that you'll be just stunning with your Indonesian dress ( and the right accessories ) and if somebody is going be envious- it will be the other girls :)
As for your second question, I don't know, but even if your parents are really old school and hyperprotective, I don't think that you are going to upset them or make waves if you tell them nice and simply as you told us : that your school allows you to invite someone, that the custom would be to show up at a dance with a male companion, and that you know a nice kid who is your friend and would like to invite him to go to the matric with you , simply just as friends, no romance. Just so that you do not have to show up all alone, and to be sure you'll have someone to dance with :). It does not seem such an objectionable request to me, ( probably a parent would prefer you had a date to pick you up and take you home and sort of keep an eye on you ?.... rather than potentially get into ( alcohoolic ) trouble with a whole bunch of rambunctious teens ? ) but hey, it's worth a try anyway !
...............................
|
