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writes: Well as many of you know(from my previous questions)I am in love with my gf we have been through many problem but always solved them now my gf isn't particularly in a good relationship with her mom. My gf is 18 and wants to move out and its understandable that her mom doesn't want her to leave the house. I know a child never grows up in their parents eye but there is one problem she faces with her and its the fact that she does not want me with her daughter now I can get the whole boyfriend mom thing but I think its a little deeper than that. Now I am a good kid I have never been aressted even though my gfs mom thinks otherwise but I don't get it why me my gf has had a horrible previous ex before me and yet he is the one for my gf in her mom's eye I don't have a job and my gf ex is rich and spoiled and my gfs mom wants that for her daughter but all my gf wants is just to spend time with me and both of us are so much in love we have plans for marriage and even have names for our future children. I know we're young to think of such things but that's why we're planning every step as much as we can for our goal of marriage to be reached but her mother is the only obstacle. Idk for what reason she hates me but every time my gf asks her mom she replies with a somewhat childish and rather immature comment if my gf asked her mom why we can't go out on dates her mom says its because I'm ugly or fat, or her mom said(and this is true) that she doesn't want her kids looking like me cuz of the way I look. Now I don't get that at all and even the police record which according to my gfs mom I have for possession and have been punished by my parents is not true if I ever done anything to do with drugs my parents would have killed me and never once have I gotten in trouble with the police and supposedly the entire police department has my description my family's description and my nickname but all this bull about me and the drug charges I supposedly have are false here's my question now how can I fix this situation with her mom? Her mom doesn't have to like me just trust and accept the fact that I am with her daughter
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): It doesnt matter what her mom thinks.It shouldnt matter at all. You both are in a happy loving relationship so enjoy where you are with her.
You should get to be with her mom a little so she knows you better and see how much you love her daughter. Hopefully she can accept.
Her mother has to let you show who you are to her and set aside her reasons of why she doesnt like you. She as a mother wants her child happy and taken care of and make sure she'll be set for life. Which im sure you can provide, but does mommy know that. Prove to her.
You love your girlfriend enough to think of commitment and kids, i think its enough that any mother should be damn happy about it.
If you cant gain moms aproval through some time, then i say f^ck it and move on, just forever know you and your girl are both well on your way to more happiness.
xoxo Good luck
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 It does not matter what your girlfriend's mother thinks. You love each other and your girlfriend's mother is just giong to have to learn to accept it and stop lying to herself. Her delusions of you are being created because she wants to believe that her daughter is with the wrong man. Your girlfriend should no longer as or beg, now she must demand that her mother set her own corrupted views aside and give you a REAL chance. You and your girlfriend's mother should spend time to get to know one another show she can see who YOU are. If this does not work, then there is nothing more you can do. Your girlfriend's mother is of little consequence now because you and your girlfriend love each other and you have plans. She cannot do anything to change the way her daughter feels about you.
I hope that helps.
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