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writes:My girlfriend be going to college in a few months, and as each day passes, I get more and more worried. We have been together for awhile and we love each other dearly. My girlfriend hasn't really partied since we've been together, but she has drank a few times. She hasn't drank in quite awhile, mainly because she says it makes her feel sick every time. She knows that it bothers me when she drinks. I trust her but when people drink they are not the same.I know college is a whole new world and it will bring on many opportunities for partying and drinking. She will be living with 2 of her high school girlfriends and she will be focused on school, but I know they will try and get her to go out and drink and stuff.How should I talk to her about partying and drinking? I know she needs to have her freedom, but I don't want our relationship to suffer because of mistakes she could make if she drinks. Her college isn't far away, should I maybe drive down there and be with her when she wants to drink so I can make sure everything goes ok? I don't want to be controlling about this, but I want us to be happy together. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to talk to her and explain that I'd feel much better if she didn't drink, but I don't know how to tell her without her thinking that I'm trying to control her =(.
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Relax she probably feels the same way. You need to trust her to make the right decisions if she loves you she will understand why you are worried. Its very natural to be worried.
Just sit her down and explain that this is making you feel this way, she will understand dont worry.
Hope it all works out.
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reader, Stitch +, writes (30 June 2009):
Chances are if she feels the way she says then she will be too busy thinking about you to even notice other guys. wen shes not drinking, well only she knows her limit and she will just have to not exceed her limit. if you do drive down to check she might feel as if ur smothering her, she might even ask for a break in the relationship. as long as you have spoken to her about this im sure she will understand
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