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writes:Ok I'm in a weird situation. Both me and my girlfriend are 14 and we both love eachother. We've been going at it for nearly 6 months now.2 weeks ago she admits to me that she looks at porn. This itself seemed very odd since I don't often hear of girls who are porn addicts, specially if she has me. Then the other night I found her porn collection on her computer and to my surprise I saw cartoon porn on there as well. There was some regular porn too but also cartoon porn and not just hentai either, I found simpsons type shit on there and pokemon porn. I was blown away but never confronted her about it.I don't know how to approach her about it, this all seems too weird to me and she noticed today that I've been acting different. Could she have a serious problem? What should I do? Should I end things with her? I feel so uncomfortable around her now. What should I do?
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reader, DevineArtist +, writes (16 January 2013):
Um don't end things just cuz she watches cartoon porn. Everyone has there own fantisies and turn ins etc. and just be honosy let her no it makes u feel uncomfortable but don't end a good relationship over something dumb and who noze mayb she will grow out of it hope I helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Well, my ex girlfriend and I had HUGE relationship issues because I watched porn. It only happened about once a month, but I knew she didn't like it so I openly told her every time, trying to keep communication open. It tore everything apart. I couldn't look at her the same way, she couldn't look at me the same way. Porn does destroy relationships, and it is NOT something that should be disregarded as the other posters seem to think so.
However, I know many of my guy friends look at porn, and their girlfriends "put up with it". But that's not good. I never want my girl to "put up with" anything I do. And your girl shouldn't want you to "put up with" it if you feel incredibly uncomfortable.
The way I see it, and I know it's severe, but every time I look at porn I cheated on my girlfriend in my head. I mentally had sex with another. And, usually, the "weird" porn starts being watched after watching consistently for awhile. So she probably does watch it quite a bit. But I DON'T want to plant insecurities in your head. If you are saying "I'm okay with this, but just curious is this weird?" , then my answer is no. Hope that helps. Just found this site, so I don't have an account.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): "cartoon porn" is called Hentai, I'm a huge anime fan and find it a turn on so I enjoy watching it too. Would you rather she had sex with loads of guys or watched some hentai? I think I'd prefer the second. It's perfectly natural as we are all attracted to different things. don't judge her and don't worry about it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): 'pokemon porn'...
Good Lord. What a strange, wonderful and frightening world we find ourselves in.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Oh relax. I watch cartoon porn too. If you have an issue with it you shouldn't have snooped! Why were you looking around for her porn anyways. Yes girls like porn too. If you have a problem with that then find another girl as this one might be too independent for you.
But no, she does NOT have a problem, and I doubt she is addicted to porn just because she watches it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 April 2010):
 It sounds to me like curiosity. Just like, "SIMPSONS PORN, really?!?" - yeah, I'd ever have to watch. Just because that's crazy! And don't be quick to label her as an addict. She might have a perfectly healthy relationship with porn. Girls watch it too, you know! It's totally normal.
I doubt she has a serious problem, unless she's wanting to call you Homer in bed. If you want to clear your head, just talk to her about it, but be gentle. Everyone has watched something a little weird in their life and might feel awkward about talking about it! Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Minnie10  +, writes (19 April 2010):
as a young woman of 20 I totally understand this. u and ur girlfriend are quite young for sex but i am not going to lecture u on that. for a lot of girls, sex is not as enjoyable when you are young and this has nothing to the boy but the girls stage in developement. Especially at 14years old, a girl has just developed into a young woman and is still trying to explore herself to see what is comfortable and satisfying for her. I suggest that both of you sit down and ask yourselves are you really ready for sex. boys are naturally ready quicker for sex but if a girl isn't truely comfortable with it, it can be both painful and unpleasant for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Hahahaha, it seems perfectly normal to me. It may just be that because girls develop faster than boys (and you are both still so young...) that she gets hornier than you more often. Whatever the cause, it's nothing to worry about. It's quite normal for girls to watch porn and masturbate. And to be honest, I don't know how many uncomfortable conversations I've had to sit through whilst some of my more vocal friends talked about this or the other in that regard...
As for the pokemon thing, lol, I wouldn't worry about that either. When it's porn, well, it doesn't matter what they are, but what they're doing.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 just because she looks at porn doesnt mean to say shes and addict and some womens sex drive isnt that high and feel they need some mind stimulant to arouse them more.. anime porn some prefer it to real each to their own really! i think you need to talk to her about it try and understand why she likes that sort of thing rather than being judgemental. what if the roles were reversed ? talk about this is the best way to clear your mind and get the answers you need. also just hope you are practicing safe sex as their are enough young children in this world ... good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Im 14 too about to be 15, no i don't think you should end things with her. It's normal for guys to watch porn but when a girl does it, you think its weird. If it was the other way around i dont think she would end it with you. I think you should talk to her and ask her how come she watches it and see if you can understand her perspective. I guess i can see why your uncomfortable, probably since it was really suprising to you. But if you really care for her it shouldn't be a huge deal, unless she does have a problem. Then you should try to help her overcome the obstacle and tell her that you are there for her, and that she doesnt need the porn especially since shes got you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Talk to her about it. Mind you many women do watch porn, guys being the majority of "weird shit".
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reader, empop +, writes (18 April 2010):
I'm sure a ton of guys would be totally jealous of your situation and would love their girlfriend's to watch more porn.I watch porn, I have girl friends who watch porn (one of my female friends just sent me a link to a video of her "ultimate fantasy" which was way kinkier than many of my male friend's porn) so your girl is not weird at all.As for the cartoon thing, I don't think it's a big deal - it's about fantasy. Some people are more psychological, and they're more interested in *what* people are doing, rather than *who* is doing it. If she's like that (and many girls are) then it wouldn't make a difference if it's a cartoon or a person. Also, some girls prefer cartoons or stories because they don't get jealous of female lead.Anyway, I think you should be counting your lucky stars! Instead of thinking she's weird, look at the type of porn she's watching. See if you see any themes (does she like men who are submissive, or dominant? Does she like it when girls get dressed up and pretty looking?). Talk to her about her fantasies, and try to play into them in your sex life, and with a bit of practice, you'll totally be able to rock her world.
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