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Girlfriend uninterested? Busy? Done with me?

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Question - (27 December 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2012)
A male United States age 41-50, *eddog writes:

I have been with my girl for about 7 months. We worked together when we met and had so much fun. After I left she started to text me and invite me over to her place and to do things I did the same all worked well. We didn't have sex for about two months. I thought there was more from the start. I love being around her and spending time with her. We primarily text throughout the week (I don't like). I always wait a few minutes between texts and always wait for a response. Never go crazy texting. We have been on a regular schedule of seeing each other a couple of times per week. This is where it all got weird... She said she was falling for me and that it was a monumental task. I told her that her love was all I was after from the start. I was very happy. Couple of weeks later I finally said I love you she said the same.(thanksgiving) That night was special. I have said I love you twice both times she said it back. She is now moving further away and I will move closer to her if this works out. Since she has been moving she hasn't seemed interested in me. I can handle not seeing her because she is busy and I understand. Her texts have grown infrequent and short. And she doesn't seem to want to make plans with me. I saw her last Sat night it was fine. I talked to her mon and tues then didn't text her for two days. I had told her I wanted to see her before Christmas and she said ok. So I texted her Friday after two days, asking if she wanted to get together. She said she was taking a mini vacation and was already out of town. I replied "call me". No reply. I texted about 3hrs later "just wanna know whats up love" Her reply," I'm not sure what "whats up" is referring to but I'm with a group of friends and will hit you up when I get back." My reply "whats up" this weekend, hadn't spoken to you wanted to make plans, have fun. I texted her late in the day the next day normal conversation stuff that usually gets a reply. I haven't heard from her since Friday, now Mon night. I haven't text her since Sat. I know she was with her family for sat and sunday but even when she is with them she usually txts me. What is going on?! My own experience says leave her alone which I am doing but it is killing me!

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A male reader, reddog United States +, writes (4 January 2012):

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Ok, I waited her out. She said she lost her phone during the move.. I don't know. It seems things are ok just cooled a little and she is a busy professional women. That was tough. I'm glad I didn't text anything I was tempted to text it would have put her off. We will see how things turn out. Love is a bitch..

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A male reader, reddog United States +, writes (27 December 2011):

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I'm waiting it out. I know she is busy with a new job and the move. I will update you guys how it turns out. I appreciate the kind words.

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A male reader, Tom Obler  United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2011):

Tom Obler  agony auntWell, obviously the Christmas period is busy and all that blah blah. But she seems to have gone quiet on you. The "whats up" business didn't need her to respond how she did. I knew what you meant when I read it so why did she need to clarify things. It's making stress out of nothing. So, I would not text or do anything now and simply wait it out. Yes really. If she has love then she will be in contact. Thats what people that love eachother or are fond with eachother do. Try to hang in there and don't contact her and wait to see if she responds. Come back to the site with any updates if you would like. Ok, all the best, Tom.

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