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writes:My girlfriend of 17 years is cheating on me and its happend a few times in the past..I stayed because of our kids and wanted it to work..but now I am fed up with it...the thing is her sister has been there for me through this and is in a bad relationship hereself and now we have feelings for eachother.she's younger than me and also has kids and is very unhappily married..and does not have a good relationship with her sister..advice please!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 December 2009):
 Don't do it, even if you are officially single. This is a minefield. A FUBAR of gargantuan proportions. No good can ever come of this.
As a general rule, never date anyone who is related to your ex, friends with your ex, roommates or former roommates of your ex, or casual acquaintances of your ex. Why? They will get together and compare notes on you, decide you are a dog, then gang up to make your life as miserable as possible.
One other thing. Many people seem to think that the proper response to being cheated on is to go out and cheat. How is spreading the misery going to help? Not to mention the innocent (or not so innocent) stranger you chose to punish your partner with. When there has been infidelity, healing or separation so healing can start are the options. Revenge is soul cankering.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 If your girlfriend cheats on you so much then she isn't trust worthy and I would advise you to leave her.As for her sister, make sure that both you and her are officialy single before you get together, and try to ease your kids into it because parents breaking up can be very upsetting and the fact that you're going out with their aunt can be a bit weird for them.good luckxx
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reader, bitch +, writes (1 December 2009):
Ok, you are considering cheating with her sister? Dont do it unless you both leave your relationships first. Your girlfriend cheating on you is wrong. So you cheating on her is just as wrong. I would tell her you are ending your relationship with her. I would not cheat with her sister as she is married. If she is unhappily married, she should file for divorce. She should move out of the residence and live on her own, then you could start a relationship with her. But it is not ok for you to cheat and for her to cheat just because you aren't happy. You both need to end your relationships first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Girlfriend of 17 years?? Work on it, and if it is worth it, and you both are not afraid of committment make her at least your wife of 1 year! Maybe she is feeling a tad insecure, does not mean it is mature to act on it,
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