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writes:Heyy, im 16 nearly 17 (male). Ive just broken up with my girlfriend and we were sexually active. We had sex a few times without a condom because she told me she hadnt had sex with anyone else. While I was going out with her I caught thrush, at first I didnt know what to do, so i rang my mum and she helped me get it sorted. I didnt think anything of it at the time.But now some time later, ive found our she has had sex with loads of other guys before me at parties ect.. and im worried ive got somthing else, no signs of it, just i think i do... and its making me really self-concious.Ive sent off for a Chlamydia test so I can see if I have that. But is there anything else I can do? :SThanks
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Go on the NHS website and there is a section for sexual health - it will show you all the nearest clinics where you can get tested for free in your area. They might be GUM clinics or they might just be specialist clinics in local hospitals or doctors surgeries. Either way - find your nearest one, make an appointment and get tested for everything! It is free, doesnt take very long and is very simple....there is no reason why you shouldnt go and get tested! You can go alone - you dont even need to tell your parents if you dont want to.
Make sure this is a lesson for you - dont believe everything a girl tells you and always use a condom! They are the only way to prevent STD's and to stop unwanted pregnancies (after all - if a girl can lie about being a virgin, she can lie about being on the pill too!).
My general rule with new sexual partners is to always use a condom until you both go and get an STD test. Once you have both got the all clear then you can start having sex without condoms. That way you never have to worry about getting STD's and your new partner wont have to worry either.
Just be sensible when you are having sex and dont be so trusting, the reality is you will never know if someone is telling you the truth and you cannot put your health in the hands of someone else. It is your body and you need to look after it - therefore always put your health first and always use condoms until you and your partner have been tested so you can confirm that you are both STD free!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Yes please get tested...but this begs another question...
What reasoning could you possibly use to equate having unprotected sex because some girl TOLD you she hadn't had sex with anyone else?
Did she tell you she was a virgin? If thats the case all the more reason to use protection. You should use protection EVERY TIME. Please in the future take no one's word for anything when it comes to whether to use protection or not. USE IT.
Best of Luck
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 October 2009):
 What you need to do is get yourself to your nearest GUM CLINIC.
Google your location and search for GUM Clinic, (you can have a walk in appointment) or call them to fix an appointment.
If I was you i'd get tested for EVERYTHING just to make sure your clean as you would never know what you could be carrying.
Dont worry about any of this, just get yourself seen too just to be on the safe side.
Normally the GUM Clinics here take hours to get seen to as members of the public walk in everyday to get tested for STD's. So be prepared in case of a time wait. The nurses are very nice and you dont have to be ashamed.
I highly recommend this.
Goodluck!
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reader, called Steve +, writes (20 October 2009):
 No point doing everything yourself - there is no shame going to a Clinic! Just go and get checked... it's the only real way that you will feel safe!
Good luck and be more careful next time - PSS
Practise Safe Sex!!!
Steve
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