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writes:Hello dear cupiders.I have been in a relationsh ip with my girlfriend for four years on and off, and through a lot of cheating, lies and now a pregnancy we have managed to work everything out. But lately I feel like Im doing everything wrong, I know I've lied in the past but now I am completely honest with my girlfriend, shes pregnant and its obviously not my baby since I dont come with the right parts to make a baby, and I feel like Im handling it well. She has told me that she wants me to grow up and in my opinion Im rising to the occassion, mind Im not someone who wants or likes kids, or do I get excited about baby clothes and such. But I am excited to start a family and I want this baby boy.Today when I woke up, she had sent me a text saying her friend gave her number to some guy for a booty call, and I wasnt really upset like she was, if she had no intention on hanging out with them why should it bother me? I am also on a peace bond because of her friend and I cannot get in any trouble, which has changed my reactions to everything, before I would have wanted to fight and threaten people, I didnt do this at all today and now she is mad at me and I dont know who she wants me to be. I sent her friend a message asking her to get the guy to delete my girlfriends number but this wasnt good enough, she then sent me the guys number and after I told her I sent him a message she was still mad that I didnt want to before she said something. When I said that I cant go around threatening people like before, she insisted that I assumed thats what she wanted and that she just wanted me to warn him. I dont see how the two are different.I dont know who she wants me to be anymore, how should I talk to her about this?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 she wants you to be jealous of her threats of being unfaithful? she sounds like a winner. let her figure out this baby stuff on her own you sound like too good of a person to get sucked down by this person who is tempting you out of peace bond and out of your head (if i were you anyway)
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reader, Dez +, writes (6 August 2010):
Damned if you do damned if you don't!!
First examine her motivation as she was the one to initiate the issue. Second, examine your own motivation!
That said, in 50+ years of experience dual sexuality in a monogamous relationship NEVER works!my wife encouraged me to follow up on a meeting with a gentleman on our honeymoon (supposed OPEN relationship that she requested). Nothing but bad feelings all around! ( except me - confusion)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): I think both of you girls should just go out and forget this women on women crap and get men. So here is the thing I have observed from lesbian relationships: One of the women, the "butch" which many can look very close to a man usually plays the role of the male, and than you have the feminine female (the bitch if you will) who is usually the pretty one and many times you dont know she is a lesb until you see her in the company of a butch. I know this because I dated one and had no idea until she took me to a party and I met her other "man". That is a story for another day.
So basically it is true that women know probably better than men how to satisfy a women orally, they know G spots better, how to make each other cum etc etc...but in the end a women needs a real dick to fully satisfy her. No matter how many times I made her cum using oral and other techniques, in the end she wanted the male organ in her. Not a dildo, not a finger, but the swelled up fully erect male organ. This is true of the lesbian i dated, and true of other women in my life. If I ever ejaculated pre-maturely and they didnt get it, there would be hell to pay.
So what I am saying here is that your GF needed a man. She may enjoy some nice toungue action with you, but every now and than she needs a man to fully satisfy her. That is my take on all of this
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Now ur into women and is this girlfriend bi im assuming since she slept with a guy? I gather that she's not sure if she's into women or men since she's preg.. U need to get on the same page with ur gf, tell her what u want and that ull support her and this baby but not her infidelity. Heterosexual relationships and homosexual relationships are nearly related..so share ur thoughts and feelings..but stand ur ground and lay down the terms..make sure she's ready to be in this relationship..but if she's not ready and unsure about being with a woman then ur better off letting her go.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Cheating? Lies? Now she's pregnant? Did you two talk about the pregnancy? Since she's pregnant, does that mean she cheated on you? You don't like children? This entire thing sound really crazy. Perhaps you both need to take a step back and talk about your relationship, fidelity, and what each of you want from each other.
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