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writes:My girlfriend (20 years younger) and I had a drag out name calling fight today. This has been building up for several days and exploded today.Her problem is she thinks every time she wants something from the store (usually food) or go on a drive etc. I am supposed to drop my work and do what she says. Well the last couple of days being really busy I told her wait 48 hours and we'll go out. BANG!!! I don't love her, I am a prick and other expletives. Well, over the years I have taken them and not shot back at her...today I did and hit hard, harder than her. Now she is staying in the spare bedroom and I stay in mine where my computer and work is. I am seriously considering either I leave or her. The Condo is in my name.Any help would be appreciated.TomC Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): She might be feeling sorry in the spare room. Especially if you went ballistic and pushed your buttons too far. Now she knows how far she can go. Sometimes us women need to be put in our place....firmly...with love...would've been better. She got a verbal spanking. Either you 2 have a little talk that you NEVER want things to escalate that far again, or the relationship doesn't have a future.
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (1 February 2009):
 She seems to be taking advantage of your good nature.
I get the feeling she's used to "twisting you around her little finger".
You don't mention "love" in your letter.
If you have feelings for her, talk this out. Good communication is an essential ingredient for a good relationship.
Your girlfriend has to realise that there are proprieties in life. If she doesn't understand this, perhaps you should review your relationship.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 February 2009):
 You say that this attitude "has been building up for several days" but do not mention length of the relationship. We might assume, based on apparent cohabitation, that the relationship has considerable history. Unless her demands have been ongoing for awhile, then it sounds like something is suddenly bothering or irritating her. My suggestion is to communicate openly and try to give it more time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): I think you should talk to her first. Try to explain that you do love her, but u still have work to do. And the hard reality is that the world does not revolve around her. If she cant understand that, then kick her out.
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