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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I love my boyfriend a lot and we've been on and off for almost 3 years in june. The problem is we are living together now and we constantly fight. We both cut each others throght out. I've tryed to communicate shoot I even tryed to get him to do a 14 day dr. Phil program but he doesn't take it seriously. He's dumped me 5 times in the last 2 and a half years and each time he satus he changed I take him back. I used to be really depressed and suicidal. I thought I got rid of it but now he's saying he can't take anymore fighting and he wants to leave. This makes me feel depressed again and I'm so afraid of going back. Whenever he left me in the past he left me broken hearted and made me feel like I was a worthless piece of crap amd not good looking or that if he doesn't want me Noone will. If he does end up leaving I don't know what to do. I'd be shatterd on a million pieces again from him and I'm afraid I won't recover this time. Please help I'll be very greatful
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reader, Leonardo  +, writes (1 February 2009):
Yes, there is something wrong with this picture. My guess is your emotions have as stronger grip on you than your logical brain.
A woman should not become depressed to the point of suicide because a man leaves her. Everything being equal, I would expect you to see that breaking up 5 times in 2 1/2 years is not a functional relationship. If the problem is his, then you should be strong enough to break up with him. Of course, breaking up is an emotional experience, but it should not be life threatening. If you are prone to depression, then several types of anti-depressant medicines are available to help you cope with this crisis.
However, if your relationship consists of a constant string of arguments, one or both of you are seriously incompatible. I don't have enough information to say who is at fault, but I can say one of you must make a permanent break. Right now, you are stuck in a pattern that is no good for either one of you.
Get a grip girl and see things as they are and not as you wish them to be.
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reader, jazmarie +, writes (1 February 2009):
 i personally think that no women is worthless..prove him wrong..if he really loves you he'll change..dont let the world make fun of you..you make fun the world.
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