A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: My girlfriend recently became friends with one of my work colleagues on Facebook. On Christmas morning, whilst I was still asleep, my girlfriend sent my colleague a message saying Merry Christmas along with a selfie of herself fully made up. She's not friends with any of my other colleagues despite being a customer at my place of work, so do I have anything to work about?
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male
reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (29 December 2017):
Yes you should worry. She is looking to move on. Let her.
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female
reader, like I see it +, writes (27 December 2017):
I agree with the others, this seems fishy. As a woman in the same age range as you (and presumably your girlfriend) I can say I would not send a "selfie" style photo to someone I wasn't interested in. A group or family photo or a photo of me doing something interesting and relevant to the conversation, maybe. Dolled-up selfie? Absolutely not. It sends entirely the wrong message.
Your girlfriend is either really naive about how this might be interpreted by the message recipient OR her intentions here were more than friendly. Keep an eye out for other signs she may want more than a Facebook acquaintanceship with this guy.
Good luck and best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2017): Applying make-up takes time and tedious effort. Sending a selfie in full makeup to another guy is suspicious.
Don't flip-out, but stay vigil and observe her behavior. I'd be concerned. "Worried" might be a strong-word. You don't have enough evidence to draw any conclusions. I think she might be flirting. Ask her what's up with that? Stay cool!
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 December 2017):
Yeah, that has trouble all over... WHO does that?
Who sends selfies to your BF's coworker? She was (at least she THINKS she was) smart enough to make it look like a "Christmas Greeting" but - the added selfie makes it seem a LOT less innocent if you ask me. UNLESS (Like MissKin said) she sent that selfie to EVERYONE.
If not....
I'd ask WTF is up with that.
And I'd ask her how she would feel if you got all gussied up and sent selfies to one of HER female coworkers.
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female
reader, MissKin +, writes (27 December 2017):
This would make me worry. I don't think it's necessary to send a selfish. You could argue away just a merry Christmas text but not the picture as well unless she sent it to everyone she knows.
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male
reader, Roboaxe +, writes (27 December 2017):
Uh Oh. Not a good sign. Selfie sending is very flirty behavior. Be careful.
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male
reader, CMMP +, writes (27 December 2017):
Cheating usually starts innocently enough. Sending a selfie is kind of a bad omen.
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