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writes: i need help with my gf its hard because she is constantly reminded of out bad past even after 2 years of beign together she still doesn't trust me she thinks i'll go behind her back and talk to some other girl when i wont at all!!!!!!! waht can i do to help our relationship Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Two years is a long time to be holding on to something that happened in the past. Am guessing whatever it was that you done wrong it was something to do with another girl and now your girlfriend has lost trust in you, am I right?
You need to sit down and talk openly with her, she chose to forgive you and stay with you, that was her choice so she needs to learn to deal with it, because if she is still punishing you two years later the relationship is never going to work and things wont improve. So sit down with her and just have an open and honest conversation with her. She is insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): Im afraid it is not going to get any better after 7 years my ex never let up on anything he thought was bad so i let up on him and let him go
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reader, Sexified226  +, writes (9 July 2011):
I so have that problem to :( and I never even cheated in ANY way :( and I wouldn't but he thinks I did and he won't let it go and I didn't even do it yea.. It sux.. Idk what to do either :/
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reader, Jay_xxxxx  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Well it's hard to know what to say when we don't know the reason for her being angry, but the fact that you say she still doesn't trust you apply there was another girl that she got a little jealous and worried over.
Talk to her and be open with her about what you are feeling and she should be open with you too, if not then just show her that there is nothing to be so worried about and that she can trust you.
Having her being so insecure can also affect your social life, and it may lead to her getting upset when you want to go out with friends so you really need to nip it in the bud or you two will getting fed up and the relationship coming to an end, which I know you don't want as you have been with this girl for so long.
I hope I helped
Jay x x x
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (9 July 2011):
 First of all, can you tell us what you did that your gf's finding hard to forget?
Secondly, the two of you need to see a relationship counselor where the two of you can be open and honest with each other, if your gf doesn't want to do that in your own home. She's finding it hard to forget something you did, and one would think after two years, she would "forgive and forget." I can tell it's frustrating for you, but try to see if she wants to see a third party to "air out the dirty laundry."
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