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writes:Im 16 and a few weeks ago my older sister had i party which i went to. Whilst i was out in the garden having a drink (i was a little bit drunk) I met this boy (he was a year older than me) anwe got talking for ages at the end we ended up snogging but then i went upstairs to get more drink and i passed out on the bed! Before i went upstairs he asked for my number which i gave him but around 3 in the morning i woke up to him coming into the room and asked if i wanted to have sex and because i was so drunk i said yes! (i would never have done this sober!) but in the morning he was gone. I asked my sister if she knew him but she said no because a friend of hers had brought him, now he hasnt called! I have to talk to him again, not just because i liked him but because i gave him my virginity! I didnt even get his number which i know is stupid but i dont know what to do because i cant tell my sister what we did! Please help me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice i visited a clinic and it turns out im not pregnant! i ran into the guy in a sports shop and we went for coffee we had a talk about what we did then went our seperate ways,
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Sadly, I think you need to put this down as a bad experience and LEARN from it in the future.
Firstly, you need to go to the Doctor, get a full STD check and a pregnancy check - you have no idea where this boy may have been.
Secondly, you need to go and get yourself on some form of contraception, the pill, the patch, implant, there are all sorts of methods available. Go and see your local Nurse about this. Be safe and be prepared.
I am sorry your first time was like this, but I think you need to do a bit of growing up. At 16, you shouldnt be drinking to the point where you pass out, in fact you shouldnt be drinking at all, as the LEGAL age is 18. This law is there for a reason, as at 18 you are legally an adult and if you get drunk and do stupid things then you should know better and it is totally your own fault. As an adult you are responsible for yourself. If you carry on drinking and getting blind drunk like that, then this situation may happen again. So stop the drinking until you are old enough to know when you have had enough and what your limit is. A lot of men will take advantage of a drunk woman - you are an easy target. Apart from the fact it just makes you out to be far from classy, when you cant stand up, cant talk properly, and are leering at every man in sight. It is not clever, and it is not healthy. You are only 16 and your body is still developing - dont risk ending up with liver poisoning, or being taken advantage of again. STAY OFF THE BOOZE.
Have a bit more self respect for yourself as a woman - going and "snogging" and then sleeping with someone you have only known for a couple of hours is not classy, and it will only get you a reputation if people find out, so dont let it happen again.
I do not think you will hear from this guy again. He took advantage of your drunken state, and I expect you are not the first and wont be the last. I am sorry, but this happens to girls who cannot take their drink.
But go to the Doctor. Good luck.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Please make an appointment with your nearest family planning clinic or your doctor. You need to be tested for sexual diseases and if no contraception was used probably a pregnancy test will be needed.
What's done is done. Why do you need to talk to this guy, he's got your telephone number, if he wants to talk, he'll call you. Chalk it down to experience, when your older it'll be a bit of excitement that you'll remember and probably laugh about. Right now, well.. NO MORE DRINKING.. if you stick to this rule, I doubt that you'll end up in this type of situation again.
Don't feel bad, stuff like this happens when you become an adult (or in your case, a young adult) You can talk to the people at the family planning clinic, they will understand and treat you gently. http://www.nhs.uk
If your brave enough and need more support, then talk to your sister, mother or girlfriends, they'll understand it's not normal for you and you might be feeling a little upset about what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): You did it because you were horny and that's ok. Don't let alcohol give you the power to do things you wouldn't normally do but secretly want.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 January 2010):
If you want to know who he is, you have to tell your sister. There is no other way to find him. And I have an awful feeling you won't. Make sure you get tested for STD's as well.
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