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writes:hi all. me and my girlfriend's relationship is amazingly strong. we love being together and we are in different schools but the relationship works for sure. no problems. I finish this year and would like to go study 2 years . unluky it's 100kilometers to the campus.so the point is we only see each other weekends and alot in holidays and once through the week so we don't neglect school activitys.and also not neglect each other.I love her and will not lose her. My question is how do I say this right or how do I explain it to her that i want to go study 1 year while she finnishes school?? I still will see her almost every weekend and maby twice a week. but she hates the Idea of me going away for a year. How should I go to work to find a balance in this desition?? I cant do it through the post. and this is the closist campus. Pleas help with advice about how I can work this out. I wil really apresiate help on this question because study and love is the most inportant things in my life. I need both. Please help@_@ Reply to this Question
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reader, oosie +, writes (21 April 2011):
oosie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHank you. I wish live would stop with it's curfballs against love. Really IT hurts when I see her sad. How do I get her to really understand. BEcause she is one of the type of girls. That hates people feeling sorry for her. So she doesn't say much how she feels.? What must my step one be??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 You just need to be honest with her. Start by telling her that you love her but that you need to go away for your education for a year. Tell her how much you have looked in to other options so you can stay closer to her but that there are no other options for you. Tell her how sad you are going to be to be so far away from her and how much you are going to miss her. But tell her that you have made sure that you will get to see her most weekends and holidays and that you love her enough to make it work and ask her does she love you enough to stand by you.
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reader, oosie +, writes (21 April 2011):
oosie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo how will I tell her ..In the right way that aal is ok. To put that security in her mind. I need to assure her al is going to be fine.But only this subject is really hard to get through to her???
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (20 April 2011):
Well it sounds to me like you have a strong head on your shoulders and you know what you want. Ok I dont blame your girlfriend for worrying about you being far away at college and her not wanting you to go. But if you get to see each other even once a week then that should be enough. It is only for a year and plus there will be summer holidays to look forward to as well. So explain all this to her tell her you will be just as sad as her when you leave and that you will miss her loads but that it is something you need to do and that you will visit her as often as possible. If she loves you then she will want you to get a good education as well and she will not try and stop you and if she does well then she is a selfish girl and will only be thinking about herself not you.
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