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writes:My fiance has always had a negative outlook on life,he is 1/2 black and 1/2 italian he feels every1 is racist and it frustrates the heck ouuta me!he says so much negative things in front of our 5yr old son and i dont like it,i try 2 bring it up 2 him and tell him not 2 say stuff like that in front of our son but it always turns into a fight.....what do i do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 I totally agree with you. Your son should not be growing up being told that most people are racist in the world. He should have the right to judge people for himself and this might very well effect your boys confidence and make him feel that people dont like him. You really need to talk to your son maybe and try and tell him to make up his own mind. I know that this is a hard thing to do with a five year old. But explain to him that everybody is different and that daddy's opinion is not always true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really have tried 2 bring it up in a calm enviroment,he feels that our son will have to go through the same things when he gets older so he sees no problem with the things he says in front of our son....i obviously dont see things the same way & i dont want my son growing up thinking that most ppl r racist towards all minorities i dont believe that to be true at all!i want my son 2 form his own opinions about ppl!i dont know i feel like im in a lose/lose situation with all this
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (20 April 2011):
You need to talk to him about this in a calm enviroment. Some evening after your son has gone to bed both of you sit down and have a couple of drinks and relax and just explain to him that he should try and be more positive around your son. Tell him you are just looking out for your sons best interest and that you do not want to argue with him. Also a good thing would be to listen to him. Ask him why he feels people are being racist to him. Ask him to give you some examples.
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reader, sunshine88 +, writes (20 April 2011):
my husband is somewhat racist at times and I hate it! He will say things in front of our son or even try to get our son to say certain things that are wrong! I dont know how to get my husband to stop. I express that i dont like it and it is wrong and low of him. I pull my son aside and tell him that daddy sometimes says things that are bad and he should not say them. I ask my son if it is nice what daddy is saying and he acknowledges that it is not nice and I ask if he (my son) says those things and he always says no. I just hope and pray that im not getting calls from teachers when he starts schools. I cant control or change my husband all i can do is teach my son from right and wrong and point out if daddy is being wrong at times.
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