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writes:I had a sexual relation with my brother since 7 years at that time both of us were not married. I got married 4years ago and am having a child. my brother got married an year back and his wife too is expecting now. He stays far off from me and whenever he comes to my place I expect him to stay with me as earlier but i could see a change in him in his trips now. He is not putting his maximum effort to either call or meet me but I still love him so much and not able to concentrate on anything. My husband is very caring but have no love towards him as I am in love with my brother. I am happy with this relation as long as my brother is with me but am not able to tolerate once he leaves me and am feeling that he likes his wife more than me. kindly suggest me so that I dont trouble my brother when he is in town and even I am completely starved thinking about this relation since days. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): That is disgusting. Your babies will be mutants. Man thats wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): You sound like you have a very serious problem. Why did you start having sex with your brother? Did he initiate it or did you, or was it something that just happened when you got drunk, etc.? There are two possible solutions. One is to see a therapist who can help you get over the rejection from your brother. The other is to try and have a three-way relationship with your husband and brother. This way, you could have them both. I have read about this kind of thing happening before. You would have to talk to your husband about this first. And of course, your brother would have to agree. Good luck, and post back here to let us know if you have made any progress in solving this problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): If you love your brother that much, let him go, but let your husband go to, he can feel bad about your not having feelings towards him, and don't and up with only your brother, you can get problems if anyone get to here ore see this in your family, and if you care at al for the man you living with, let him go now!!And talk to your brother now, and try to find anyone als to love, even if it is hard, do not try the hard way and let your hart get broken. But I think that your brother loves hes wife, and do let him have that, he is stil your brother!You will understand when your kid gets older. // A friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Hi, First off id like to say that I totally disagree with most of these comments. I mean come on your telling her that he shouldn love his wife more? I personally dont agree with all that "its not right" bull, this woman is in love and wether it's her brother or not she sees him as the man she loves and your telling her the man she loves shouldn't love her? That's like a kick in the teeth for god sake!However I do agree you need to ask him, if he sayd he doesn't love you then you will have to live with it, no matter how hard it is. But if he says he does love you then I fully encourage you to live happily together anyway you please. An old boyfriend of mine once told me 'You can't control love, and even if you could, wha's the point of it then?' I agree and that's why I don't condem you like all the other narrow minded people telling you you need help, well you don't, your a woma in love what's so crazy about that?Anyways I hope I helped and good luck!
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reader, emma26690  +, writes (9 April 2007):
 This is wrong! of coursehe loveshis wife he wouldnt have married her otherwise! think of your neice/nephew this is not fair on them or your sister-in-law, pleasetell me thatthe child your carrying is not your brothers! I do however commend you for actually writing this, it is very brave! But stop it NOW!
Good Luck with everything, xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): You are so brave to post this.Something that you have been used to since the age of 7 will have had some perception of normality. However, I doubt if anyone in society would be forgiven for this type of intimacy.The solution luckily is simple kick this awful habbit before it kicks you. This forum is about "forbidden love", you have posted something which is close to "deadly love" - this is possibly the most serious thing I have read on this website.I will say again, your only comfort is that he wants out and no one knows. Take this as a luxury to do the right thing. If this gets out, what would you give to get back to this point in time again?
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reader, markanthonyv0  +, writes (6 April 2007):
Think of it this way, you have most of the world against any further sexual intercourse between you and your brother. Perhaps that is why he is so distant. Just look at the other replies before this one, they all call you sick and say you need help. Perhaps this is the type of negativity your brother is trying to avoid. You should tell your brother how you feel and find out how your brother feels. I am in no position to say whether or not the sexual relationship that you shared with your brother is wrong, but do remember there are a lot of people out there who are against this type of relationship between a brother and sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): This is not right in any culture. and i'm sorry, but u really need to be told that you are crazy!!! You both need help. Your "brother" obviously realises how wrong this is, and is trying to stop you need to do the same. If ur married, i am sure that u are old enough to know that this is just plain wrong! I am not saying it in a horrible way, but u get help....quickly..preferably TODAY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): Here's a idea...when he "Comes" to you're house ask him in whitch way he loves you....as a sister, or as a wife. If he says as a sister, then he is not crazy...you and you're brother need to stop you're relationship that you have. He doestn't want to hurt you probley. but he loves you as a sister. Does his wife know about the "Sex". She should she might know how to help =] but if you care about you're brother...then you need to stop! Because he loves his wife as a wife. I hope this helps a bit. But think about telling someone you trust for help...
-Grace
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reader, Handycam +, writes (2 April 2007):
I know you can't help who you fall for but you must know this is wrong. Your brother is trying to distance himself (and rightly so). He SHOULD love his wife more than he loves you, and the sooner you come to terms with that the better off you both will be. You need to take a leaf out of your brothers book and leave him alone. Just because you don't love your husband, doesn't mean that he doesn't love his wife. If you love your brother as you say you do, you'll leave him to get on with his life, as he's trying to.
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (2 April 2007):
 Do you realise how sick that is… he’s your BROTHER. It doesn’t matter how much you love him, its incest!!! I think you both need help, you mostly… you need to speak with a professional, someone who can help you with this disgusting act you and your brother have been doing!! Truly it isn’t right – I’m sorry but you need to know how wrong this is!! Your talking like its normal to be in love and sleeping with you Brother!!! Please seek help… and leave your brother to live his life.
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (2 April 2007):
Do you realise how sick that is… he’s your BROTHER. It doesn’t matter how much you love him, its incest!!! I think you both need help, you mostly… you need to speak with a professional, someone who can help you with this disgusting act you and your brother have been doing!! Truly it isn’t right – I’m sorry but you need to know how wrong this is!! Your talking like its normal to be in love and sleeping with you Brother!!! Please seek help… and leave your brother to live his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): I'm sorry but i really do think this is sick. What is the age gap between you and your brother? He abused you. He had sex with his own sister. You can still go to the police about it now. He likes his wife more than you, of course he does, he loves her. How can he possibley love his sister? You need to speak to someone in authority about this, your brother did a very wrong thing. I just cannot bring myself to understand this one. Which country do you come from? Sorry if i sound a bit insensitive but this isn't right in any culture, surely. Put all of these thoughts out of your head and concentrate on you husband who i am sure love you in his own special way, as a husband. I think that you maybe need to see a counsellor and get all of these things told to them. I wish you well.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): hello,
am lewis from nigeria,i really know its a hard situation for you when you can let go the inner love you have for your brother,the love you ought to have for him is the one of the family thing you know,my brother,i think your problem is that he was the first one that you had sex with,but i want you to know that life is all about mistakes,i think your brother must have realised that he has done a very bad thing with you but you dont understand any,i know he loves you but he doesnt want to remember the past,and am sure that he wants you to understand that too,i think you should just forget about that inner love and concentrate on the brother love,you are expecting a child now and he is also,i want you to know that life has to continue and face your family as your brother is facing his,concentrate on loving your husband the more and spend more time with him and try to think less off your brother,and think more of your child.
try not to make that mistake of trying to bring back the old time.
Thats all i have for now. [email address blocked]
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reader, LittleTwoLegs +, writes (2 April 2007):
 This is something you need to get to a counsellor about and talk with. You're both married, so it's really not an option to sleep with anyone BUT your spouses from now on. It would be helpful to know how old your brother was when you were seven...but nonetheless I'm sure you love your brother, but he is your brother and not your partner no matter what has happened between the two of you. Please go to a hospitol and talk to a nurse who can refer you to some free counselling programs, because this kind of matter needs to be dealt with by trained professionals, and not anyone else (that includes us, that includes anyone you know, and that even includes yourself), so please do this! It is of vital importance and there is no reason to delay in getting yourself proper help!
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