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writes:I am a bit confused here. First of all pardon me if this is going to be long, but I actually need another mind to think with me and tell me if I'm reading too much into this or not.I am a 33 yo divorced woman with a kid, and I have this male close friend for 5 years now. I could feel it in the past that he felt something for me, but for reasons I understand he never mentioned it, but I could feel it in a lot of things he did to me in the past, and then we didn't see each other for long time.We agreed recently on facebook to catch up for coffee this morning, and he was as friendly and funny as ever, but after we left he sent me the message I am quoting below to my facebook, and I am wondering if this man is just being friendly, or if he is interested. Thanks for help. I edited it just to hide personal information:Thanks for a good morning, even though I still didn't have my coffee till this moment.It's always a joy seeing you, because you, honestly, are one of the very few people I feel very comfortable talking to, and can be myself with. You know how comfortable you are with a person AFTER they leave, and it has always been the same; always felt comfortable and positive after you left. Seems like you boost my positive energy! It's really good that you started learning reading and writing in (*Insert language X here*). This is impressive, especially given the shortage of time being a full time mother, but again, your daughter will grow up speaking (Language X) and (language Y), and it would be nice of course if you both could speak both languages.I'm looking forward to seeing you again on Sunday or Tuesday. If you don't mind I would suggest I would do (language X) "Note: His native language" revisions with you based in what you study, and this is for three reasons:1- I genuinely enjoy teaching, generally speaking. If I would, hypothetically speaking, choose another job, it would've been a university professor or some sort of instructor. I think I got the talent for it naturally.2- I enjoy doing activities with you. Again you just give me positive energy, and I always enjoyed doing activities with my good friends generally speaking.3- I am not fully sure that what this lady teaches is 100% right. Hence I'd tell you the correct forms and phrases if a mistake was found.Ok?Gonna have my coffee (hopefully) now. Take care dear. Bye.P.S: I like the short hair on you. I was afraid it would look a bit strange, but 'honestly' it looks good on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): From the message you can't be absolutely sure he likes you,he enjoys spending time with you,true!!he wants to see you again,true!!but does he like you,can't be too sure of it..
The whole I like doing activities with my good friends may also mean he thinks of you as a good friend and genuinely likes spending time with you..I think don't think much he has asked you out again,go out again..and then u will know..see if he holds your hand,or even gives u a kiss at the end of the day,,or you could joking ask 'oh so is it like a date with a wink' so you can see what he says
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 I think too he likes you . I can't be absolutely sure, of course, but I get the feeling he does and I'll tell you why :
- because he is tryng to set up something that will give him the way to meet you regularly. RevisionS, plural, not an once off . Old trick that I used successfully myself :) If you come up with some project that entails getting together regularly ( learning a language, rehearsing a play, preparing for a college test... )you've put a foot inside the door and you work your magic from there
- because teaching is fun and interesting , sure. I like it too ,in some periods I supplemented my income by tutoring middle or high school kids , and I enjoyed it.
But, it's still WORK, it is still demanding, very tiring at times, it is still a committment of my time , patience and energies, and as much as I enjoy it, ... I enjoy it more when I am paid :) I would not do it for free for just anybody. It should be a really best friend,... or someone I particularly care about. So...
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (27 September 2012):
Right, well I think he sounds like someone patronising someone who is a bit insecure. I would say he has positive feelings towards you but that they are not romantically based.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): Hi,
I'm the OP. Thanks for your answers. @oldbag: Why do you sound that certain?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (27 September 2012):
 Hi
Yep he sure is! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): erm it is confusing! This message can be interpreted in both ways, but as a personal feeling I am getting out of it I think there's a chance he's more than just being friendly.
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