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writes:I recently just met a guy online. We went out a week ago and have been meeting up almost everyday. He knows I'm in the phase of getting over another guy, so I made it clear that we're hanging out as friends and stuff like that.After the first meeting, he has been driving over to my house, dropping off breakfast and stuff. And a few days ago, he told me that he likes me. And that he's willing to wait until I'm ready. Problem is, he's quite a good looker, drives a hot car. And I'm just an ordinary girl. I'm not sure whether I should trust him because I'm starting to like him as well. ): He texts me very often and he drives me around after school for classes. He also admited to me that he used to date alot previously, and many at one time. He said that he didnt want to hide anything from me and that I should be matured enough to understand that he has changed.I don't know what to believe or what to think.help thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello againn.
I need help ):
Heres an update on the situation, we've been together for the past few months, coming to 5 months? Things have been going well but there're alot of hiccups and ups and downs. Recently he went back to work, and keeps telling me about his "very hot" female colleagues that have been texting him after work and stuff like that. He's been playing all these "mind games" with me and its too much for me to take. He tells other girls that he misses them, on their facebook walls. And when I confront him about that, he says im being too sensitive.
Every time we fight, he makes me feel as if im in the wrong. As if I'm too immatured to understand, and im just being childish.
I don't know.
I'm sick of being affected by all these games he's playing.
Why does he want to do such things?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 well if you feel you cannot trust him then i think you have your answer right there.
i mean you know his past and if you and him should get together can you honestly say you'll not be worrying about whom he is with and what he is doing...?
if you will be then maybe this isn't the relationship you want.
if you think it's in the past and you'll be fine then go for it.
but you seem to not trust him even before you guys are together so maybe that's your answer right there...
i mean he does seem to really like you and he probably has changed but because you know his past and clearly don't trust what he's done and could do then maybe that's the answer you've been searching for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso what do i do? I'm quite smitten by him ): I've already had a serious conversation with him about this, I told him that I do like him, but I'm not emotionally ready for anything yet. So he said like, "I know, and its ok. I'm willing to wait. I want to take this to another level in the near future or eventually. I'm willing to be very very patient."
and I was just like "aww" but I didnt say that. I said "ok."
What should I do, to make him think that I'm into him, but not THAT into him. I can't stop checking my phone I swear, it is so annoying. Paranoia and fear is eating me up like a zmonster.
I'm afraid to trust him because I'm very skeptical. I only knew him for slightly more than 1 week? Is it POSSIBLE to like anyone in a week? It sounds so...un credible. Plus its my birthday today, and he planned a whole array of things for me. Like fine dining and stuff like that. I dont know what to think.
i.am.going.crazy.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (4 June 2009):
nooo i don't think so hun!!i mean otherwise that's way crossing the line.but it's up to you!i mean start to date him for a bit and see how it goes.if you feel he has changed then go for it but if you querie things then talk to him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah thats what i thought too as well about, the player thing. However, he has told his friends about me and stuff. And also, he's been talking to my mom, like he told her that he likes me and asked her for permission as to whether he could date me out and stuff like that. Is that part of the player plan? ):
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (4 June 2009):
well don't get into anything too deep just yet.
believe as he says.
he clearly likes you and stuff and he obviously doesn't see you as just an "ordinary" girl.
just give him a chance but at the moment date him! don't get in too deep just yet because you never know he could be bluffing.
but see how it goes and see wha happens from there.
you never know hun he could be mr perfect.
Hope this helps.
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