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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:A few months ago I saw this guy I knew of through a friend while I was on a night out. Wouldn't have normally spoken to him but he spoke to me and we had a dance and a kiss and swapped numbers. The next week he text me literally non stop and we arranged a date for the following week. We watched a film together and ended up having sex, not ideal I know. He continued to text me the week after the date as normal and then after that the texts kind of fizzled out from then onwards. After a bit of arguing and me confronting him he told me he wasn't looking for anything serious. So I agreed to become friends with benefits which went down well and he was really keen to see me for a while. This now also seems to have fizzled out a little, I mean it was always him asking me to meet up and now I usually ask him and when I do he takes a while to come up with a day. I mean I went about a month without hearing from him thinking he would make the first move and arrange something but he didn't so I called him and he wanted to meet up that day! So it wasn't like he didn't want to. After we had met up I text him midweek (the same week) saying about meeting again and he wanted to at the weekend but I was busy so I suggested in the week and he said yeah then I didn't hear from him until the end of the week when I was at college anyway which I'd previously said I would be. So again weeks have gone by.It's like he can have what he wants now, we're getting on better when we actually see each other we get on really well it's just the contacting by email all the time and text was complicating things as we would both misinterpret them. I am by no means acting like I want anything more, I just don't get it some people are never happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): What's the problem here? You agreed to FWB, you are doing FWB, and now you are trying to understand why it's not becoming something more than FWB.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): I do have respect for myself, I'm 21 and have only slept with 3 people in 5 years I don't think that is bad at all. We use protection everything is cool it was a win win situation. Why is it no longer appealing? He seems to enjoy it at the time! Makes no sense to me xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): Help, it's driving me insane! I thought me and him had an agreement, surely he either wants this or doesn't? Not somewhere inbetween? I thought we had a good thing here which we both wanted x
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (13 November 2009):
Poor you. You obviously fancy him. Unfortunately he only cares about what you've got under you skirt and it seems even that is not very appealing anymore. If you have any form of respect for yourself at all. You need to cut all ties with this guy and really do not sleep with your friends henceforth, only God knows what the guy has been telling people about you behind your back. RESPECT YOURSELF BABY GIRL. i wish you the best.
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