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writes:I hope someone can help with advice with this situation, it takes a bit of explaining, but here goes.My best friend and sister-in-law came to stay with us last week to tell us some news and sort her life out. She has three young children under the age of 10, works full time, pays all her bills and mortgage on time, creates a loving secure environment for her kids and still finds time for church activities and help others less fortunate. She is an amazing wonderful person and I think the world of her. But a year last May my much loved brother,( her husband )and my 11 year old nephew (her son) were tragically drowned when their boat capsized while out fishing. Our lives have never recovered from this and never will, however we band together and support eachother when things get too much. The first we knew of an accident was when a family friend called at the house to inform us that my brother's boat had been sighted floating upside down and had been found by a commercial fishing vessel who had alerted the coastguard. There was no sign of my brother or nephew. My husband and son, cousins, nephews, neighbours, friend and strangers all went out in boats, trailed the beaches and cliffs and caves looking for any sign. During the awful,awful long dark days that followed the accident, waiting for news and hoping against hope that they would be found safe and well and that they had made it to land perhaps miles from anywhere. We had to hope. Four days after it happened, two of our local policemen walked up our path. I knew what was coming. I knew by the way they walked and removed their caps before knocking on the door. The world stopped for us that day. We struggled, but we stayed united...apart from my sister-in-law's horrible insensitive vile mother and two ugly sisters (total and utter TRASH, and I don't say that lightly either )who hate everyone they come in contact with. We have tried to get to know them and include them in family events time and time again but have been sneered at and had it thrown back in our faces so we stopped bothering with them. I try and see good in everyone I meet but I have failed with these three useless waste of skins. These "things" have made my friends life a total misery from day 1. She had a horrible childhood with them and spent as much time as she could at our house. Her dad is a dedicated boozer and has seperated from the her mother. My parents still call her her third daughter and love her as such. Against all the odds she made damn sure she got good grades to go on to college and then uni which she paid for herself by working after classes. She got first in economics and has gone on to a fabulous job which she loves. After years of physical and verbal abuse from these harpies (none of which work) they now expect a substantial cut of her wages each month. This harrasement has only started since my brother died and for a quiet life she hands it over as she still isnt strong enough to cope with them yet. They give her nothing but dogs abuse and I am so angry about this but feel so helpless. If anything is said they find a way of getting back, ie, broken windows, scratches on the car paintwork, etc. They have always hated my family, especially my brother who dared to make my friend happy, and when my brother died they sent congratulations cards with "ha ha ha" written inside to my friend and one to our family. They were sneaky enough not to put anything incriminating them but I got a phone call on the day of the funerals from one of them asking if we had got the card followed by a ha ha ha. I couldnt believe how insensitive, repulsive and cruel they could be, but it gave me a glimmer of what my friend has been through. They did not bother to attend the funerals. Now she has a great opportunity to start a new life in Canada, her company has offered her a fabulous promotion which I think she should take. On the one hand I want her to have a good life with the kids, away from the clutch of her horrifying family. But we will miss her and the kids so much. I know I am being selfish wanting her to stay after all thats happened, however I feel this is the only course at the moment to get her away from everything but I also think it is so unfair that these "things" have driven her to take this action as I think she would stay otherwise. She is in turmoil as to what to do for the best and has said that if I dont want her to go she wont. She needs to start afresh and I cant
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Poor woman!!
Let her go...she needs to find herself and her family is CRUEL.
keep in contact via skype. Talk to her often. Book your tickets early enough to go see her in Canada :)
You can make it work.
God bless all of you
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reader, natasia +, writes (8 November 2010):
 I can't actually believe her family are for real!
I think you should let her go to Canada and get away from all this and have a fresh start. You have to let her escape.
And I think you have more than enough grounds to go to the police about these horrible people.
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