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writes:I'm in my late teens and have been going out with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We have been friends since childhood and so are pretty close, and are very comfortable just cuddling and watching a film, playing computer games, going to events ect. My problem is whenever we get a little more intimate, if any part that is normally covered by clothes is touched or anything, I am just crazy ticklish! It doesn't help that he often teases me by practically tickling me to death, so I even squirm when he doesn't even touch me and I'm just expecting it. What can I do!?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 And, I'm going to add it, tickling a person when they are very ticklish - and it upsets and bothers them - if he should continue to do this after you have begged him to stop - it's abusive and cruel. It's not a funny thing or a kind thing when you know the other person is in pain, or if he does it for fun or to amuse himself because it startles you.
It is the equivalent of kicking someone in the nuts when you know it hurts - so I'm suggesting using your knee and applying it to his groin the next time he doesn't stop.
Then just say something that he might have said in the past - like... Oh, I'm sorry, I thought it tickled OR It was just a joke.
Not sooo funny when the shoe is on the other foot -
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Have you tried asking him to STOP tickling you?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 In my experience, if you get ticklish it's because you don't like the touch and it's uncomfortable. This could be because you deep down don't want him to touch you. It could be nothing personal against him, but that you aren't ready. Or, it's just him that you aren't really comfortable with. I was very ticklish with other men, but with my last boyfriend nothing tickled, and even the things I hated the most were just comfortable with him.
The best advice I can give you is to try and make your boyfriend respect that you are ticklish and have him STOP tickling you. Instead, he should practice touching you in a way that you find comfortable. My best guess is that he is too light to the touch.
You also need to focus on controling your body. You can decide that it will not tickle. Take deep breaths, and do not let it get to you, try instead and enjoy the touch and not clam up or freak out. Of course, if you are going to get over the ticklishness your boyfriend HAS to stop tickling you on purpose, and he can never hold you down or force you to be tickled. If you are to get over this you need to get to do it at your terms. And I suspect you never actually enjoy being tickled. You'd rather be able to enjoy his touch, right?
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