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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 No, I believe that a guy and a girl can be just friends.
I just don't think that you should pressure your friends to spend money on you, or anyway choose what their financial priorities should be. Maybe he just has different ideas from yours about money management.
If you think though that he's deliberately telling you lies... there's not much trust in this friendship, and maybe you aren't so close friends after all ?...
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reader, meccamega  +, writes (19 February 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've been friends for years. Why is it do hard to believe that a girl and guy can be friends?
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reader, meccamega +, writes (19 February 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're not romantic partners either at all. I try being friends with women but they're so bitchy to me. They always see me as a threat.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (19 February 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't believe he's broke at all. He begged me to go out a couple of weeks ago.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 February 2012):
 So he bought a new car and therefore is broke... makes sense in a way.
I think it was an excuse though. He really didn't feel like going out. Sorry.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 February 2012):
So he bought a new car and therefore is broke... makes sense in a way.
I think it was an excuse though. He really didn't feel like going out. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): I don't think this friend is interested in you in any romantic way and may be busy with other things on his mind, like financing worries so don't count on him grabbing a clue anytime soon.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 February 2012):
 borrowing money to go out with a friend is not a good reason.
if he's broke he's broke. if you want to see him badly enough figure out something to do that costs no money or you pay since YOU ASKED him to go out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): Well surely you can meet up and do something that doesn't involve spending money? Or very little cash outlay anyway. A coffee? A walk in the park?
Personally I would feel mean leaving a pal alone on their birthday. Last weekend I sat all afternoon with a pal in a pub as he had had no better offers, and pubs bore me to death. But he's always been a good friend so why not humour him on his special day.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (18 February 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe still had money after The car though. We went out acouple of weeks ago.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 February 2012):
That would explain why he is penniless now :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 February 2012):
Are you sure he's a good friend?
Whilst I don't agree that he should just be borrowing money, it does appear that he's used this excuse a few times, and if he bought a new car, that does suggest that perhaps he's just not that bothered about you.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (18 February 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just brought a new car
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 February 2012):
No, he should not borrow money from his family for a not indispensable thing like celebrating a birthday . If one is so fortunate to have family or friends who are willing to help out, that's not a good reason to take advantage of their courtesy for anything he may fancy . I think your friend is wise to try living within his means. You can catch up by phone or email and postpone the official celebrations to when he will actually be able to afford it.
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