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writes: Is this girl interested?Is it harder to tempt a girl who has approached a guy?I have had an approach from a girl and I got her phone number.It's 4 months on but have never been out on a date.She keeps agreeing to go out on a date but doesn't come up with a suitable day or time. It seems her work and friends come first. She has lost the previous bf because of this.While I have kept patient and considerate and not putting pressure on to start dating and to form the friendship through phone calls.While I'll ask how she is and talk maturely on the phone and she always wants me to call her. I am not flattering her because I don't know how she'll take it.I need to know whether she is not interested or whether I may not be coming over keen enough. Reply to this Question
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (1 January 2006):
 I think that you shouldn't waste your time waiting for this girl. She can't be serious about dating you if she gave you her number over four months ago, and yet you still haven't been on a date!
If she really is that wrapped up in work and friends, then she probably would not make the best girlfriend right now, anyway. Chances are, if her last relationship ended for this very reason, then things would not be any different in your relationship with her, should you eventually progress to boyfriend and girlfriend. It sounds like things would move very, very slowly, and the relationship would be quite boring. She seems to be taking advantage of the fact that you're very patient and that she can get away with leaving you hanging.
I suggest going on dates with other women. It does not seem like you have much of a future with this one.
Good luck.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 December 2005):
I think she is treating you very very unfairly and think's that she can get away with and that you will wait.
I think you should try to move on, because this girl whether she be interested or not, obvisouly isn't right to be in a relationship as she just doesn't have the time and doesn't put in effort (as she makes you ring all the time!). For the fact that you know this girl lost her last bf due to the way she is treating you now, I think you should treat that as a wake up call, that this girl isn't someone you should be in a realtionship with. Not only will her lack of effort and un avaibility cause difficulties in seeing each other, it will make you feel like crap! You will start to question if she really likes you and if your even a good person and it will bring up any insecurities you have.
I say forget about her while its early on, you can move on, you will be ok. There are PLENTY and i mean PLENTY more gilrs out there who are better then her.
good luck! I hope all goes well for you.
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