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*luenee
writes:I do love a girl (A) and she loves me too.And we're now in long distance relationship since three months.. But one thing is that she's in relationship with next guy S too.. But she's in love with me and we've been like this since seven months.. And we're continuing like this.. She can't leave her current relation with S.. I told her i'll back off from her life, she cried and said me to understand her current situation. She's not a girl to hurt others so she didn't take any step either..i don't know are we really in a relationship or not.. I do love her very much and seriously i wanna continue my life with her. She knows it and she too loves me.. But she's in so called relationship with that guy S.. Since we all are away, only me been in contact of her much time. We do chat about three hours before sleeping and some facebook mails..we love each other but problem for me is that she's other guy in relationship whom she doesn't love..And next girl is L.. She was in relationship with me before an year..but she broked with me for other guy.. And now that guy also broke up with her.. And now she is also single.. Next girl is D the girl who,i guess likes me.. She sometimes talks about me being her husband.. But i keep on avoiding this things because i love A and don't wanna talk about this sort of things with other girls..this girl even sometimes relates things with naughty matters and sex...but i avoid itAnd next girl is B,a girl in my new college.. I just like her..not like but just a little, and that's also because i'm interested in being in relationship with a girl from my same caste(ethnic group)..and she'd given her mobile no. To me last week. And we've just two sms exchange yet.. As i do love the girl A..,me have not shown interest over this girl B.this girl B is very studious and keeps on studying and studying.. Hee hee.. Now what should i do? Should i accept love of D? Or go for the new girl B of the college? Or take some steps to continue my previous love relation with my ex? Or should i continue my relation with my love A,and just wait for a suitable day of she being only mine? What if she (A)gets back to her boyfriend?
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (6 February 2011):
Dear Alunee,
I am sorry if been rude. Don't mind my words dear, i have no purpose behind. Whatever am saying is free from all bias and am completely impartial, but on the other hand try to solve someones problem to the extent i can.
this is very good quotation "Being in love can lead to situation where a person can be blinded to the truth, because they do not want to see the truth."
I had same story, like u. I also trusted her alot. Never ever wanted to hear anything bad about her. I was always sure she is the perfect and dreamy girl of mine, will never cheat me, whenever someone told me bad of her, i was just to burst our, never confess she would be wrong. but u know she cheated me that bad, that still its scarce are in my heart. will take much time to be healed.
My advice for u is that never ever trust someone that much easily, if u trust alot and if hurted then recovery will be much difficult.
How it is possible the one she has contacts with doesn't have her number? and you said she doesnt want him hurted, if it is so, then it means they have a deep relationship.
I am really sorry to say that, but it is reality to accept, that such girls are of no worth.
She is betraying u and cheating that boy. She is not serious. If would then would choose one and would never retreat. that one would be the perfect guy, and her first choice and love. moving on and change on guys is not the nature of a good girl.
Rest is upon u, however u take decision, but be much careful, lest u will be hurted alot. don't be blinded to love. use logic and reasons for choosing her.
best of luck
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (6 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@abas: its not like that. I'm not saying so. I'm just saying whatever is your advice i'm not able to do so. I just love her. I just want to be her only guy in life.. I just wanna know from you guys should i just stick with her and wait her to accept me . Till now she 's in just so called relation with the next guy. Neither dating nor anything.. May be he call her sometime. But as said by her he doesn't know her phone no. Too
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reader, Abass Abassi +, writes (5 February 2011):
Life will be a battle if you want to try four girls....Why write on this page if you don't care about other's point of view....Just go on, and accept who ever you want...why are asking for advice?????
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (5 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@dr.cal...:
me too don't know what.. And why. Who's say to her that why is she standing in just middle. If she doesn't do anything now my love for her will be increasing more and more and if anything happens against me then what am i gonna do? Don't know what happened to her... She just says me,"understand my situation na bf" and also keeps on saying i love you lot. Huff. What a situation for me. I'm not satisfied with her in this case but i can't force her either,to take a firm decision. By the way she 's away from where i'm staying now. And it takes four days to go there. And i'm a student now n can't spend on my own to be there na. Otherwise i would've gone to meet her to the next country ..
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (4 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Dr cal:
what if we couldn't be together in relation . And what if i'm not only guy for her in her life? Do you think i should continue like this? Should i? I do love her and i'll do as you said.. Those girls are not important for me. But just sometimes i think that if she can't accept me at the moment then why can't i try for other girls.. I know i don't want it.. I don't want other except her. But understand my feelins na..
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (4 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@abbas:
honestly, i 've never cared whatever others said.. I don't care however other view of her.. But for me , i love her a lot.. And i know she's betraying the guy.. But why should i let be her in relation ship with the guy who 's not trustworthy as i'm for her.. That guy has not ever shared just twenty percent of the time that i've spent with her.. Its hard for me for not being accepted by her. I know it. And i just want to be her only guy.. And i just want to have really forever committed relationship with her.. Thats all.. She is hurting me too.. But what can i do..
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (4 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@annalisa:
i just can say is i'm the one who've known her more than any other else in her life so is she in mine case too.. She used to like me . She'd decided to leave her current relationship for me. But that time i was in relation with my ex girlfren L.. I was loyal to L and although i like A as fren,i'd never thought i was a guy for her.. So i'd pretendede of knowing anything about her feelings for me and just kept on treating her as just close fren. She'd not expressed but i could read her face.. That time she was unknown about my relation with next girl that is L my ex... That time i didn't accept her coz i didn't ever thought that she could like a guy like me.. And now when we both love each other so much .don't know why she can't accept me well.. I know she can't hurt other. Yeah she's betraying him. But that guy, i don't like him,coz i know he's other girlfren.. And now she is away how can i not think that he's having other girlfren behind her... But i've not talked about his other relationship with A.. Regarding the other girls like L,D AND B,they're very far behind my life.. They're nothing for me as my love A is..
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reader, Abass Abassi +, writes (4 February 2011):
offfff, having relationship with four. why do u confuse urself????
Have relationship with non of them.
A: A is not suitable coz she is not loyal...having bf, who is not forced on her, but she is now connected with u, anytime she may be connected with someone else, if she finds better than u, never ever trust such girls, dump her, u will be hurted onwards in long run.
As u don't love with B,C and D, that is why it is clear not to marry any of them.
My advice will be wait for sometime and find a loyal, beautiful, trustworthy and intelligent girl....never ever marry or have a relationship with a girl who is already having a bf, and is cheating on him....what is the guarrette she wont cheat u too?
If i catagorise these four, then A will come to the end of ur priorities.......coz she is unloyal, cheater to her current bf.
Regards
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