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writes: I am 15 year old girl and yesterday I caught my 17 year old brother having sex with our 30 year old stepmum.I was totally disgusted at the sight of brother and stepmum going at it like rabbits the moment they caught sight of me they jumped out of bed and I ran off.Later on when I returned home I went to see my brother to ask him about what I saw well I was completely shocked when he told me that they have been having sex regularly for over 3 years now.He told me that since our stepmum has been on the prozac she is a nymphomaniac and our dad cant satisfy her sexual demands so she needs a lover.I asked him how it started and he told me she got him drunk not long after his 13 birthday and she seduced him into bed with her and ever since then she has demanded sex with him.I feel guilty and want to tell my dad what should I do?
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (1 April 2006):
 YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR DAD STRAIGHT AWAY.EXPAIN TO HIM WHAT YOU SAW AND WHAT YOUR BROTHER HAS TOLD YOU.ALSO TELL HIM WHAT IS WIFE AS BEEN SAYING ABOUT HER NEEDS.TO ME IT SEEMS SHE WANTS A PLAY BOY.AND HAS HE HIS ONLY A YOUNG TEEN HE IS EASYER TO PURSUADE.YOUR DAD NEEDS TO END THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS WOMAN AS WHICH DOES HE LOVE MOST,HIS SON OR HIS WIFE?AT FIRST HE WILL FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE YOU BUT SHOW HIM THIS AND MABE HE WILL UNDERSTAND.GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE HE SEE'S SENSE.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 I think you need to print out your question and your answers and show it to your dad
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reader, Floppy +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Hello,Simply darling, you need to tell your father. At first he probably won't believe you, and tell him it isn't your brothers fault and that he has initially been forced into it to keep him out of trouble! It isn't right for your step-mum to be having sex with your older brother, she married your father, not your brother! Telling your father may cause some serious problems, and in the long run she will probably be taken from your life. Reassure your father and tell him you're sorry and don't want to case any tension!! Good luck!... rate me.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (27 March 2006):
 i think that you really should speak to your dad, as what you step-mother is doing is completely wrong. she has been sexually abusing you brother or 3 years. speak to you dad you need to get this woman out of your life now.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (27 March 2006):
 I think you need to tell your father. There are a lot of issues here, including the welfare of your brother.
I know this is very difficult for you and I think you have already made a brave step by admitting it here on the site and trying to decide what to do about it.
This is not an easy thing to decide on. Perhaps you should enlist the support and help of someone you can talk to like an aunt or uncle (does your father have any relatives or close friends or close neighbours you can talk to about it?) or alternatively perhaps a school counsellor or a community counsellor (details you should be able to get through your local counil or health service) they may be able to help you in terms of discussing different ways to attack the problem.
I think that as well, you may need to investigate some family counselling (again a school counsellor or a health service provider in your community should be able to help you track down this sort support service) whilst the responsibilty should not be on you to force this kind of counselling, having information at your fingertips will help once you tell your father what has been going on.
Good luck and take care of yourself. This is a tough thing for anyone to go through but you sound like a sensible, caring person and I think you will make the right decision for yourself and your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2006): First read this on Prozac: "One possible side effect, which remains for the time Prozac is taken, is its effect on sex life. It often reduces desire and can delay or interfere with orgasm, in both women and men." I got this off Google.com, so if you doubt my word please check it out yourself. Second, as for telling your father, I'd say that it all depends upon what sort of man he is and what result you think his knowing about the affair would have (is he violent/jealous, or even tempered/rational). If you can count on your father to act rationally when you reveal what's been going on, then tell him, but do it this way: If you can write clearly, you should put this down on paper so your father can go through what you intend to tell him without any chance of a verbal miscommunication (you'll get your chance to speak with your father after he's read what you've had to say). Hand it directly to your father and keep yourself available for any discussion he wants to have. Now, if your father couldn't handle this news in a rational fashion, you'll need to speak with somebody about this as it has to be very disturbing to you (if it has been ongoing for three years, then your step-mother has committed statutory rape, and certainly this relationship must have affected your brother as well - counseling for him I'd say). So, if you have a minister that you can trust, I'd suggest that you seek his/her advice. If not, try your school psychologist or as a last resort try your guidance counselor. I'm certain that this adult will then inform your father. At any rate, I certainly would not recommend that you try keeping their secret; it's too high a price for you to pay.
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