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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): are you still with him?
yes YOU NEED to know. you do not have to confront the person but you need to know for later on in life -who can you trust and who you cannot. also, makes you look like a fool not knowing anything, the person who he did the deed with knows, he knows but you do not. not having this info means that you are blissfully ignorant. not a good place to be.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 I agree with the others. Knowing won't make it any better. Just be happy that you uncovered this character flaw before he slipped a ring on your finger.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Well, you're assuming something you have not seen. You maybe right but you have no proof of it.
I would find out it is true or not and with whom he did it.
Don't go back to him though. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): who do u suspect? id want to know who it was if i were you...why wont he tell you?? but if he dont tell f--k it ..whats done in the dark always comes to tha light sooner or later
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reader, reynaj +, writes (24 May 2010):
reynaj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): Girl just walk away. It's not worth it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 That's pretty lowdown of him to use your car for his tryst. You are very certain it is not one of yours?If you can find out , it would be satisfying to see who that skunk is.Who do you suspect?
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reader, Lakisha +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Just move on
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Finding out who it was may make it hurt that much more. I'd say let it go, and let him go. You deserve so much better, sweetheart.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (23 May 2010):
 knowing won't make a difference unless you really think there will be a peace of mind for you in knowing. I don't think so. It will only give you someone else to blame for it, when you should be blaming your boyfriend.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 May 2010):
Knowing won't make it any easier. And do you really think he will tell you? And what if he does? What if it's someone you know, even like? The best thing you can do is to just move on. Don't reason it, don't excuse it, don't make excuses. He cheated, and he is no longer worth the bother.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 The reason you want to know is because you are trying to reason it out so you can find a way to excuse it so you two can get back together. So he can cheat on you again in your car.
If you want this, then you need to find out who.
If you want to move on, then you don't.
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