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30-35,
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writes:Im currently a senior in high school and ive been with my boyfriend off and on since freshman year. love is a big word and although i tell him i love him, im not totally sure of it. we have had alot of problems in the past and we break up all the time but we always find our way back to each other. there are days where i feel like i should be free and move on, other times i feel like i couldnt live without him. For the past 4 months, everything has been great. But the other day I found a message on his phone from march that was to another girl saying he LOVES her. he dated this girl for literately one week. when i asked him about it he said that he didnt mean it. however, when we got back together april i asked him if he ever told her that and he said "of course not, i would never tell another girl i loved them when im only in love with you".. i couldnt decide weather i was more upset that he lied to me, or the fact that he uses the word love as if it has no meaning. He wrote me a note saying sorry but thats as far as he took it. He waits for me to text him first and he doesnt really fight to have me back. Now im stuck. Some of my friends are telling me that i should take him back and realize that what he said was a mistake and it was so long ago.. other friends are telling me that he lied straight to my face and shouldnt be trusted because this isnt the first time. someone please tell me what they think i should do. should i forgive him and let it go or should i just find happiness else where?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I have been in love with one guy all my life.I am 31 now.I fell in love with him when I was 22.I tried to move on in my life.I would miss him and start talking to him again with out caring about who he was with at that time.
on/off,on/off,on/off.In the end I realized if I really love him I would let him go free.I deleted my social networking,email addresses.I would always love him in my heart but an on/off relationship is emotionally draining to both the people in the relationship.If there's drama it's because one of you feels more than the other.But life isn't always fair.Be glad that you felt such a kind of love in your life.Move on.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Relationships should not be on again/off again. If you can't stay together, then you aren't meant for eachother.
I can think back to good moments with all my ex-gf's, but that doesn't mean I should be with them. We broke up for a reason, and we should stay that way.
I think it's time for you to let go. If it was meant to be, it wouldn't have all this drama.
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