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writes:I am adopted and I was wondering if it would be wrong to date my cousin? I don't think it's incest at all or anything. I really like my cousin. He is a boy. Please help me. Thank you.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Think of it this way... If you had a brother who was also not blood related to you, but were raised up with under the same roof, and you fell for him, wouldn't that feel wrong? Of course it would. Family is thicker than blood. Cousins and siblings should not mate no matter what. This kind of thing is frowned upon because is alters the family structure and integrity. Even if the biological risks with children isn't involved.
Your father who adopted you also isn't blood related, and you would never think of mating with him.
But the further removed from the immediate family the more it would be okay. Second and third cousins might be fair game. First cousins are still too close.
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reader, xoTrineyxo +, writes (18 November 2007):
 It might cause some issues with your family if they found out, and wouldn't you find it a bit awkward?
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I could see you experiencing family problems by doing that. Biologically he may not be, but at the beginning of your question, you see him as being your cousin, so morally I'd say it's forbidden. Even with adoption, it's not OK to take someone from family and change them to being a mate.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 Well, Im not sure about whether its forbidden or not law wise. Really. But it could cause some problems with family. Especially if hes a real cousin. Because you are blood related and if you became pregnant by him, your child could face some difficulties and abnormalities. Because of blood groups. If you are not blood related however, there still may be problems.
I doubt whether its worth the hassle.
Good luck && Take care xxxxxxx
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (2 September 2007):
 I would consider the state laws where you live.
In the state where I reside it is against the law to marry your step brother or step sister. However, if you were to marry someone and THEN your mother marries your spouses father or your father marries your spouses mother, it is no problem. Screwy isn't it?
Look up the laws. You might be pleasantly surprised. Then too you will have a little ammo to fire at Dad and Mom and they might be more agreeable to the idea providing the law does say it's ok. Hope this work out for you. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): Um. Well I guess it wouldn't be incest by biological standards. But I don't know if your family would agree that it is not incest by "family" standards.
I have had little crushes on my cousins before. And I actually knew this girl who dated her REAL cousin for a while. But they kept it hidden from their family. So it is probably more common than you think. So I don't see anything wrong with it. But I doubt it will ever lead into anything REAL serious just because of how your families would react. But for now you should go for it.
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