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writes: I am currently a 17 year old female, graduating from high school this May. I am very comfortable with myself and confident in who I am, and it is maybe for this reason that people always mistake me as many years older then I actually am. I work at a local fitness facility, and have always gotten along very well with a coworker of mine; although we work in different departments, we manage to have interesting conversations and make each other laugh when we are stressed. He is everything I have ever wanted in a relationship, unfortunately he is 28 and my mother is his boss. We began hanging out outside of work, without my parent's approval and managed to carry on this secret relationship for about two months before my parents found out. I am now forbidden to see him, contact him, or even talk to him at work - and to top that off I am grounded and for all intents and purposes locked in my room for the next month. He says that he wants to continue a relationship with me, but doesn't want me to get into any more trouble. It's eating me up inside - I love him, but is it worth the risks?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2005): wow! you really have to stop and think about the age difference. my last relationship there was a 15 year difference. as long as your under your moms roof your relationship is going to be hell. if both you & your man have strong feelings for each other then maybe both of you should consider finding a new job away from mom. and maybe a new living arrangement
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reader, madam treudeau +, writes (22 August 2005):
not if you value your freedom. don't do anything to jeaprodise your relationship with your mum, at least for right now. lets say you give it a cooling off period of a few weeks or months, then see what she says. you surely don't want to lose your best friend and confidant. besides if you both feel like you say that you do, wouldn't it be worth the wait. you said that you are 16 now right in two years you could have, providing the right qualifications a very high-paying place in the world of employed personell, maybe your own place of residence, then providing those feelings are still there inside the two of you, then should you act on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2005): Your parents should not make your lifes choices for you, maybe this relatioship is worng, maybe it will end badly, but they need to let you experience realtionships. I understand your parents point of view but it isnt necesseraly right for you! Keeping you away from him will only encourange the relaionship. I think if you act very adult about this and talk to your parents as adults listen to them and set boundaries will show them you want this man and the age gap may be a concern fot them but if they get to know him maybe they will like him aswell. try to talk to them, but remember be very adult. Good luck i hope you get what you want!
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (22 August 2005):
Sounds like a bad idea to me. Look for some guys in ur school. I mean, if your mom was cool with it it would be one thing but it's really not worth the risk, even if your mom is being unfair. When you're independent of your parents, do whatever makes you happy, but for now you gotta respect them. Never forget your family.
"And this, too shall pass away."
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (22 August 2005):
 Sweetheart, it is not worth the risk. Thing is...because of you guys loving each other...he can get fired and your life will be made a living security stop. I know you love him but continuing the relationship will make things worse for you both. I don't understand really why your parents are disapproving of the gentleman but maybe if you talk to them and see where they are comign from you might get some light shed on it. For now...just listen to them and try to move on.
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