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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi, my question is re talking about exes to new guys. I met this guy once and up til now we chat on msn at times ... but i made the mistake of talking about my ex who behaved very very badly ... it is still on my mind. Anyway this guy said to me one night when we were chatting on msn 'can i be honest with you ..' then said 'it is not attractive to talk about an ex .. there are people you can choose to talk to but not a male prospect' he said it quite nicely etc ... i said to him yes i know this but its just all fresh in my mind .. anyway then i changed the subject but it left me feeling a bit weird. Was he out of order saying that?? Or was he just trying to tactfully say it ... I have talked about my ex to him before and he has listened .. has anyone else had this happen to them? I would be interested to hear from guys .. does it really turn you off if a woman talks about her ex .. i was more confiding in him re bad stuff my ex did, abuse actually .. am i being oversensitive or was he right to say that to me? He wasnt rude really, just being 'honest' as he put it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 February 2010):
He has put the reg flag up that if you wish to have a relationship with him or anyone else, it's best to leave your in the past. He wasn't out of order and he clearly really likes you to have been so polite about it. He is worried that if something between you and him was to happen, then you would forever be burdened by this ex. If you do need to talk, talk to a counsellor and let it all out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): Considering he wasn't rude I think there was nothing wrong with what he said...and to be honest - he was right. Telling your new potential bf about your ex is not attractive!
Talk about fun. sexy stuff. Leave the ex in the past and out of hte conversation!
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