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writes:I have been in an "exclusive" relationship with a man 18 years older than myself for 3 years. Our age difference has never been an issue for me. He is very sweet and attentive when we are together. Sex is amazing. The problem is that he was seperated for a year before we dated, and has been "trying" to get divorced for the past 3 years. Every time he got close, his wife would find some reason to postpone the proceedings. I suspect her feeling is financially motivated, but I question whether she wants him back. It's not only the divorce, but he has been very insecure, controlling, and really for the most part puts an incredible amount of needless stress on me. My family and friends don't like what they see. Regardless, I have broken it off with him until he gets his divorce finalized and all of these things are behind us. Which he has not been accepting of. Now he wants to get married. Lately, I have been talking to my high school sweetheart who I have always had a special place in my heart for. We have so many things in common, but I find him somewhat immature at times. We broke up and went our seperate ways for college and careers. He has certainly proven himself and has always been there for me. I don't want to string either one of them along. I want to be honest. I just don't know what path to take. I love them both. I don't know if I'm just scared of committment or just haven't found the right person.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (26 January 2008):
 I can't stand it when someone controls me. I am in a relationship with a man 18 years older than I and he does have some issues because of past problems with past girlfriends. I think that you need to tell him that he doesn't need to worry. You're with him because you love him and he's pushing you away.
If you're not happy with him, then you shouldn't force yourself to be with him.
Make choices for yourself, not for someone else.
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reader, AgonyMalika  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 If you don't feel right with your current boyfriend then dump him. This other boy you said you quite liked don't rush into dating but maybe hang out more and more and then he won't seem as immature at the moment he probably does because you were going out with an 18 year old.
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