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writes: One simple question:Is following your heart REALLY the smartest thing to do ?I mean yeah, it sounds really cute and romantic, but is this truly the wisest decision for yourself? I keep telling myself and my boyfriend, that the reason I'm still working on things with him after he kissed another girl, is because I'm following my heart. And it really is true.. I also said that if I was being logical about the situation, I WOULD NOOOT be with him right now. *sighs*I never could understand why some girls put up with the shit they do from these scumbag guys, but now that I'm in the situation its just totally different. It sucks actually. I've been learning that being vulnerable is a good thing in a relationship. You must allow yourself to be completely open with that person you love in order to really be loved back.... I feel like I was open to him in every way imaginable, and he ruined it. I'm trying to keep it together, and trying to be the way I was before it happened a couple weeks ago.. And he has actually been helping me stay positive about being with him, but sometimes it's so hard..So back to my question.....Is following your heart REALLY the smartest thing to do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 I have always relied on my inner voice... my intuition to help me make decisions in my life & this has always paid off... the heart is full of desires & emotions...which often lead to making the wrong choices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): If you dont follow your heart you will never find tue happiness. Yes you will suffer heartache along the way but that will heal if or when you find your true love.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (3 February 2006):
 Following your intuition and gut instinct is the smartest thing to do. Once you have a good feeling about this person, and no doubts in your mind that they are an honest, caring, respectful and loving individual, then I say follow your heart.
When you open your heart to someone, and bare you soul, it makes you vulnerable. It takes lots of time, and really observing and listening to someone you are considering having a relationship with. Starting off as friends is a wonderful way to know if you want to take it a step further.
Only you know if you are happy with him, and it doesnt sound like you are. You were hurt, the trust has been broken, it left you bitter, and you are afraid to open yourself back up to him. Its like an open wound that needs time to heal. You need to give yourself time to mend, and then go with your instinct.
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